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writes:Would you try win your girlfriend back even though its 2 years since split up? My ex still keeps in touch, she moved to spain for a while and sent me a text to keep in touch. she once said i liked you soooooooooooo much its a shame we argued all time, anyway you were my favourate.Or should i move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): 2 years is a while ago plus she's in another country so move on. After all, unless she moved back to England or you moved to Spain it is going to be expensive to keep hopping on a plane every 2 weeks or so just to keep the relationship going isn't it? Find someone who is in this country and remember, your relationship didn't work out before so what's to say that it'll work out this time?
P.S. Whilst not having a relationship do keep in touch. After all, there's nothing wrong with being friends with her is there?
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hi,
You obviously hold something dear in your heart about this ex-girlfriend which is well sweet, but its been two years now can you both forget the past and start a fresh?
What problems did you have before, what did you argue about?
She has told you that she holds a tourch for you, sometimes absence makes the heart grow stronger!!!!!!!
I think if you still like her then start pursuing her slowly, have fun together don't rush anything let the past be the past, but if the issues you had still worry you then talk to her try to resolve these issues, if this can not be done then move on....
I wish you all the luck
Donna
xx
PS I know this can be done this happened to my husband and I and we are both now very happy, so go for it if its what you want.......
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (28 March 2007):
 To be honest, I would! But thats just me. Whats there to lose anyway, if you and her are still single that is. And besides, you guys have grown and matured so much in that time apart, you both led different lives to the extent that it will be like dating someone new if you do now.
Whether she has moved on or not isnt even a matter in this case. What you're trying to do now is to win her from scratch, already knowing that she has moved on!! I mean its been 2 years hasnt it? Of course she has moved on! To me, the longer a couple has been apart, the easier things will be if you ever think of rekindling anything, as chances are, time wouldve healed old wounds. Now whether or not she feels for you anymore is a whole different thing and that is what you're on to find out, arent you? Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): please don't go back there, it might be a harsh things to say and I know people's experiences vary from one to other. but 2 years is a long time, if it didn't work it was reason for it, take it as life has offer you a fresh opportunity, so learn from this one and capitalize it for the next relationship.
Move on please
good luck
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reader, Melanne +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hi you don't really give any details as to why you split up. Except to say that you argued all the time. If you did get back with your ex would things go back to the way they were or have you moved on since that time?
What might seem like a good idea could actually rekindle a lot of past hurts and make you realise why you split with each other in the first place. It is great that you are friends with each other now, but if you got back together that friendship could be lost and you could end up hating each other.
If you get back together and you find it doesn't work then you will be hurt again and the hurt could be a lot worse because now you will have new arguments to settle and the friendship you have now could be gone for good. Do you really want to risk that friendship?
If you do decide that you want to get back with your ex then it is essential that you talk with one another. Talk about why you split up in the first place. What went wrong? Are you willing to work at the relationship this time? What are the warning signs you need to look out for?
Before making any decision you need to weigh up the pro's and cons in your own mind then take things slowly one day at a time. Don't rush back into bed with one another as that will only cause further problems. Take it steady and be aware of any conflicts.
This is your decision, but don't make it lightly really think about what getting back together means and why you want to get back together. Hope this helps.
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reader, Reebe +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hi there
I think after 2 years you both already have moved on.
You said you argued all the time and there's normally a reason as to why you argued alot.
If she's living in Spain then a relationship is going to be tricky and do you know if she is with someone else?
I think you should just keep your relationship in the past and just keep it as a pleasant memory.
Good Luck!
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