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writes:I know a disability shouldn't stop you from meeting people, and I know people are alright with it when I tell them, but I have a subconscious feeling that they may not like me as I can't do stuff that other people can Reply to this Question
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reader, home_land  +, writes (28 March 2007):
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hey stop thinking that way that is not good you are who you are your soul is the gate to dreams when you set around where ever you are you can with your feeligs and thoughts crooss the burders that normal or what so called normal people cant do , and a dream is worth to live for it reallty is that 90% porent of the people in our world are some how disable to dream or have the right feelings ,so i see that you are one of the mantal healthy 10%so keep your head up and say to your self no one can feel the way i do and put your feelings in the happy side you are not disable you are spical.
good luck
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reader, Reebe +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hey
Well it doesn't mean you can't join in, just means you have to be realistic about it. This wouldn't stop any one who knows the real you, not care about you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy siablity is cerebral palsy, which makes me a bit wobbly o my feet, and also I'e got epilepsy, but I haven't had a fit for ages. There's also the fact that I can't drive, because of my epilepsy, that restricts me a little bit
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reader, Reebe +, writes (28 March 2007):
Hi
You don't say what your disability is and whether your referring to friends or boyfriends. I think it depends on how you feel about yourself, everyone has something they don't feel comfortable with and if it wasn't your disability I'm sure it would be your height, weight or some other issue with yourself not many people have 100% confidence.
You don't know what other people are thinking, and you maybe imagining that they are thinking something when they're not.
My friend is disabled and spends alot of her time in a wheel chair, she still does most things that we do and if she can't join in the we either don't do it, or she'll wait until we've done the thing we were doing. To be honest most of the time I don't even notice her disablity anymore, to me she's fun, bubbly has a huge heart and is one of the nicest people I have ever met, she also has a boyfriend who worships her. What I am trying to say is yes people may judge you when they first meet you, but when they get to know you they won't care and neither should you. And if they can't get past your disability then they're not worth bothering with in the first place! I;m sure you have many great qualities that people will love about you!
Hope this helps.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (28 March 2007):
 I'm not sure from your question whether you're referring to meeting friends or love interests but I suppose my advice would be the same anyway. You need to try and stop thinking that they may not like you. People can pick up on the signals that you're unsure and they will start to feel it too if they can latch onto your own low self esteem. A positive attitude will help a lot. You're bound to run into a few people who think less of you for being disabled. It's inevitable, but they're also not the people you want to spend your time with. You want to be with people who are understanding about your disability and don't let it affect the way they see you. A positive attitude and a little self belief would help you a lot!
CD
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