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writes:I met a French guy online (we are both 32) and met him in London which went well. He is not a frequent texter and by the time I met him again 4 weeks later I probably had 4 messages from him. So he doesnt like texting and that I accept. The 2nd date went well and I stayed overnight with him. He spoke of me visiting him in France which I did another month later (Sept 2). It was lovely, he made some great efforts, was attentive, said all the right things and was tactile (holding my hand in public, gentle touches) He spoke about giving the relationship a try despite him working/traveling away often. There was nothing during that 3 day break with him to suggest he was not keen or disinterested in me. I get back to England and text him 'that I had a lovely time, thank you, I think you are great, blah blah'. No response. 9 days have passed and still no text from him. I do not have his email only mobile number. A friend says I should leave it? I actually quite liked him so would at least like to send one more message. I just do not know what to do, what to say or why he has suddenly appeared to have lost interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes we had the sex on the 2nd date and afterwards he still asked me to join him in France which I did 4 weeks later and slept with him then. I figured he might just be using me but I have had 3 successful relationships with guys met on the internet so was hanging in there....
Its easy to make excuses for men but as bronzed adonis has said 'if we like a woman we will act on it. If he was keen enough, he would get in there before anyone else does'.
I think that answers my question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): I think you have probably been very naive. Do not believe everything you are told, especially from men off the internet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): You have heard nothing because he will be busy wooing his online women before moving on to the next. Wise up with this internet shit. You always end up getting used.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): I too have played on the internet. It is easy to find desperate, lonely and vulnerable women. You tell them all the words they have waited to hear, get what you want then off to the next challenge. Come on get real about what it really is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): It looks very much like you have been used by an internet love rat my dear.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (16 September 2012):
 No one but him knows why he has not got in touch. Speaking generally, males,if we like a woman we will act on it. If he was keen enough, he would get in there before anyone else does. If you did n`t have sex with him, maybe get in touch one last time. If you did have sex then I am inclined to think you may be better just leaving it as it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): did you give him sex easily? if you met online and had sex quick he may have not replied either because he got what he wanted or to him, you are just another easy girl you get online. it could be he just wanted to try an english bird to see if they are better in bed as the french girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not as confident on the phone as I would've liked and the fact he has not telephoned me once perhaps suggests he is not keen either. If only men would just speak their mind......'sorry not interested' or 'Yes, I like you I'm just busy'. Its not too much to ask for where I stand with him. Pah!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2012): i think here its a case of who can hold out longer. it might be the fact he could be very commited to a job with hours that make him unavailable to reply. He may have an ex or family issues or maybe he has a current girlfriend? stay strong and give him time he will come to contact you. rushing things never works and he may feel akward to rush instead of takin it slow and free flowing. give him the benefit of the doubt.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (15 September 2012):
 As annoying as it is, it's fair to say that he seems to have forgotten about you already and unless he's been abducted by aliens, there is little preventing him from contacting you to say 'I also enjoyed the date etc etc!!'
There isn't really much you can do, you dont have his address or email and popping round is out of the question.
Some people can be very cowardly when they decide that things arn't right for them and it's easier to dissapear than give an explaination.
I am wondering if you had sex with him on the second date? If you did, then it might be game over for him and may explain why he hasn't been back in touch.
Let it go for now, focus on yourself and try to move on from it...if he does resurface, I am sure he will think up an excuse for his absence...it's up to you whether you accept it...but chasing him (even if you could)will just push him away.
Hugs and I hope you hear from him soon xxx
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 September 2012):
 If you know he doesn't like texting why not CALL?
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