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writes: Hi there,My beloved boyfriend has just dumped me. I've moved out of his place now but had to share a bed with him for a week. Even though he says he doesn't love me anymore and does not ever want to be more than friends he has shown me affection in bed and tried coming on to me 2 nights ago. I've stopped it everyv time. He told me he was finding it very hard to sleep next to me as all he wants to do is cuddle up to me the whole time due to force of habit. Is it as straight forward as he puts it or is he trying to tell me something because I'm very confused by his actions. Please advisethanksJo
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2005): In a nutshell, he's using you and you need to stop sleeping in the same bed with him. He is trying to have sex with you simply to fulfill his his own needs. He has made it clear he doesn't love you anymore! Why would you sleep with him when you know full well that all he wants is sex? If you're happy with this type of "sleeping" arrangement..you need to ask yourself why? If he's "not into you anymore"..and you are confused then that only means..."you are still into him". And guess who is going to get hurt the worse from this? The longer he's in your life..the harder it will be for you in the long run.
I think the two of you need to better understand what you each want from this "casual" sleeping arrangement now that he has made it clear he no longer loves you. Just have the conversation and you’ll each know exactly where you stand in this relationship. But my advice is for you to move on-and leave..get on with your life and start dating others and do not see him again.
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reader, Helen05 +, writes (8 August 2005):
I think its straight forward. Sorry. THere's a girl in his bed and thats all he sees. Its unfair of him to be doing this though. i do hope you can move on and find happiness in your life. Good luck.
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reader, carmen24 +, writes (8 August 2005):
I can understand why his actions would confuse you, but when it comes down to it he is a man, and even though his mind tells him he doesn't love you anymore, his body is telling him something else! you have been totally right to stop his advances, and need some closure by getting out of there asap! i know it sounds harsh, but i'm sure u know men dont usually think with their minds...!
i'm sure you'll find a man who loves you for everything you have to offer so dont upset yourself over your ex!
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