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male
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30-35,
*ilflover
writes:I have been with this girl for 2 yrs and when we first started dating we had sex or gave oral sex to each other alll the time. (First 8 months or so) in those 8 months there would be times we had sex 2 times a day. Now deeper into our relationship we have sex 2-3 times a month. Also whenever we would have sex it would be because I provoked it, never cause she started anything. As a man I want to feel wanted... Iv brought the problem to her many times and now its starting to become a argument. Am I wrong for getting mad that we have sex 2-3 times a month? Then she has the nerve to get mad wen she sees girls flirt with me or talk to me... Someone help
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (16 January 2012):
 Well... Milflover(I wonder if this name has anything to do with the problem), here is my opinion.
Do you ever romance her? Sex starts outside of the bedroom.
Do things for he like writing her little notes and leaving them around the house, calling her on her lunch break to tell her you love her, making her dinner, doing the washing every now and then.
Make her feel appreciated, and then maybe she will start to feel that spark towards you again. This is the problem with some relationships. The sex life gets stale because both people take their partners for granted and slip into bad habits.
Bring the romance back into the relationship and I guarantee she'll want to jump your bones more often. Women want to feel wanted and loved, just as much as men do.
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reader, milflover +, writes (12 January 2012):
milflover is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe sex is perfect! Which is another reason im confused.. She always claims she's tired n doesn't feel good everytime we lay down. But wen were up n moving around she perfectly fine. She makes me feel like a pig for wanting sex. What I take out of this is that she doesn't want me and of course wen I bring that to her attention she always claims the opposite. This has Ben a argument for about 6 months now. And I dont go out and look to flirt with any girls, im somewhat of a attractive guy and a really popular athlete in my area and girls are always trying to get with me, but they all no im with this girl and I make sure they no. But if my gg sees them flirting she flips and gets mad at me.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 January 2012):
 There is something going on that makes her withhold and you flirt. You two need to talk.
And yes, I would say for your age group 2-3 times a months seems like very little sex indeed.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 January 2012):
 There are two different issues. First, just because you are having issues in one part of the relationship, doesn't give you the right to go off and flirt with girls and start looking for another girlfriend. She's not punishing you by not having sex more.
The first things I always ask with sex are, does she always have an easy orgasm? Is there plenty of foreplay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): It sounds as if she is not as sexually `into` you as she used to be. That can happen once the initial buzz of new sex wears off. Now she has settled into what is ok for her, sex a couple of times a month and she is protecting whats `hers` by making sure other women dont try and steal you. So shes happy!
But if you want more intimacy and she is not willing to share that with you, decide if it is a deal breaker or not. Many people still love someone even when the sex has waned. They get by and manage with less sex. But if you dont think you can be happy like that, you need to tell her now. If she still refuses your advances and doesnt want to initiate sex with you, you need to ask yourself if this is how you want to live the rest of your life. If it isnt, you might have to make a hard decision.
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reader, guccimane99 +, writes (12 January 2012):
buddy i will be honest with u if u are unhappy with her tell her. Which you did honestly if shes not taking u seriously u have to options either break up with her or stay and get taken for granted. I have never been in ur situation, but i have had been in a relationship where i was getting taken for granted. Just keep ur head up kid and ill tell u this is why guys cheat no offense. If a girl isnt giving a guy the attention she needs she will find someone else to give it to her same goes with guys.
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