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*rihonesty
writes:I don't know if this happens to other people, but I find that when I look a woman straight in her eyes she tends to smirk. If I break contact the smirk goes away but then there's an attraction. It seems to happen to me whenever I find myself talking to a girl and I'm listening intently. Sometimes you talk to people and you're looking in their direction but almost through them while you're listening. When I connect it seems to spark something in people and I was wondering if this was a common occurrence or just something that happens to me with girls who tend to find me attractive. I'm not sure. Just wondering.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 January 2012):
 I've done this to guys. My smirk was backed up with thinking, "Look at this douchebag!". A smirk is nothing but a smartass smile. I'm either mentally cracking up at this guy's idiotic attempt to get me in the sack or how high he rates on the douche bag meter. There's no spark behind a smirk.
Maybe for you, but not the ladies. Just how many ladies who have smirked, went on to have long meaningful relationships with you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): I'm a woman and there are two explanations to the smirk:1) the smirk says "this makes me a little nervous.. but in a nice way, cause you're attractive.."2) or the smirk says "I smile because this is my natural reaction to show that I'm harmless and girly, but it's creepy that you're staring at me and I feel slightly intimidated"It's hard to tell the difference between the two smirks. As trancedrhythmear has correctly stated, eye contact is a sign of dominance and interest, which CAN be attractive- but dominance itself is only attractive to a woman if it's mixed with something else, like wit, intelligence, good manners, a nice body.. .. so if eye contact is too long or looks like a stare, or you're coming across too dominant, maybe you'll get a smirk but the girl secretely feels trapped and hopes she can escape you if she plays along and smiles politely.Ah, I remember yesterday when a really handsome guy looked me straight in the eye, just for a second.. I remember not only smirking but actually turning away a little from the intensity of those blue eyes, blushing, looking down to the floor for a moment before looking back, then smiling at him with the head slightly tilted to the side, touching my hair for no reason, voice instantly got a pitch higher.. If you get that reaction you're definitely doing it right ;)
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reader, trihonesty +, writes (12 January 2012):
trihonesty is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ha! Of course, you can't know what's happening in her head. That's why we're here asking these questions about love, sex and relationships. I guess I'm asking from your experience with woman and what you know of attraction or something.
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (12 January 2012):
 Are you asking us what goes on in a woman's head?
Can you see where you went wrong there?
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (12 January 2012):
 Eye contact with women says to them "youre in charge" and "the dominant one". They love this. When they smirk, that is them acknowledging, oh this guy gets it, he knows what women like. Body language too man, when they break eye contact, in conversation.. grab their hand and squeeze a little. If they squeeze back thatll definitely confirm an attraction. Sound silly? try it. see for yourself.
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