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writes:Hey Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years and the last couple of years of our relationship we NEVER KISS! I personally like kissing and believe it is a crucial part of being intimate and affectionate in a relationship. I have confronted him about it and he says he just doesnt like kissing and he does not think this is an important aspect of a relationship. When we do kiss its just a quick peck that feels like nothing. Its really starting to affect me because it feels as though i am not desired by him, or attractive to him. We used to kiss and make out a lot in the beggining of our relationship but i wish it were kept up. Just couse we have been together for a long time doesn't mean the chemestry has to be gone. There still needs to be a spark. I know that the beggining excitment of a relationship will lessen but it should not go away completely. I need to get the spark back but he doesn't like kissing :(. Is anybody in a situation similar or can anybody offer any advice about what i should do or say to convince him its important? Is there anything i can do to make him like kissing? And why did he kiss me so much before? He seemed to like it them! AHHHH frustrating!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOKay thanks ill try that. But im thinking i should probably talk to him about it as well because its starting to change my feelings about him into more lovig him as a friend rather than a boyfriend type thing which is not good at all. Maybe if i explain that he will really see how important it is to me to have that spark in the relationship and he will want to get it back too.
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reader, CaliMoore  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 The next time you see him, just walk up to him give him a hug or something, and the pull away slowly and kiss him gently, if he lets you then just leave it at that, and hopefully he'll allow small kisses, then you an increase with time seems he claims he doesnt like kissing much. But if he avoids you and doesnt allow you to kiss him, then ask him whats wrong and bring up the fact that he was more than happy to kiss you at the beginning of your relationship. Ask him what it is about kissing he now dislikes, and mention that you are too apart of this relationship, hes not in it on his own, therefore he doesnt get the say in what happens, everything is a joint decision. If hes unwilling to be considerate of your feelings, then explain to him that you're unhappy and dont appreciate how unconsiderate hes being towards you.Good luck, let me know how you get on, feel free to private message if you would like any more advice :)
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reader, Hope24 +, writes (3 June 2010):
Maybe he's lost intrest in you and trying to make you realize that and or maybe he is being a dick because he wants you to break up with him? Maybe he likes some else now that he would want to kiss? 4 years is pretty long you need to change it up with him now before he lets go of you. Like just kiss him straight up and approach to make out with him and if lets you good job.
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