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writes: Hey all,Just to let you know where i'm coming from, i just broke up with my girlfriend of nearly two years, we've decided its for the best and we've moved on to other people. I'm pursuing a crush on a girl i just met about a month ago, and I'd love to get involved with her, but there may be some issues. Maybe first and foremost is the fact that we hang with different people and that we're from different crowds. She's higher up than me on the social ladder, but i feel like i really identify with her. I havent known her long enough to precisely predict how much she cares about popularity/etc.Also, i'm not sure if our personalities are especially compatible. We've had really good conversations and we connect on a few levels, buti'm more of a shy, quiet type and shes more outgoing, and i'm not sure if she'd prefer someone to match her boldness.Another thing is, i dont know if i'm reading her right.She makes random contact with me, my hand/face etc but i'm not sure how much is "natural flirtation" and how much is sincere interest, because shes so outgoing.Now the most imminent issue i'm dealing with is, perhaps because of incompetence on my part, we were walking out of class and i asked her to dinner and a movie, but we never established it as a date, or if its a get together as friends. She seemed only slightly hesitant, and said she looked forward to it. I failed to get a cell number or a screenname, because the conversation sort of just naturally ended.I suppose i'm asking for advice regarding the possibility of a sweet relationship, and what to do about my open ended question.thanks much!
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (2 March 2006):
 Ok, well you should go for it. If she comes out then make it clear its a date, buy her a rose, it can't get any clearer then that, try not to let your nerves get the better of you and become cheesy!!!
I thought she may have hesitated because she knew your ex, but she doesn't. She just might not be sure what she wants. Either way she said it would be nice, so she's opened the door for you, now's your real chance to see how you get on together.
You will find out if you really like her and she will find out if she really likes you!
Don't worry about this I'm shy and she's loud because thats great!! If she likes to talk a lot then she won't want someone who talks other her!
If your a match it will go well if your not it will fail, at least after trying you'll know! Good luck, oh and don't let it down hearten you if it doesn't work out. Just remember there are plenty of fish in the sea!
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reader, Allean +, writes (2 March 2006):
Allean is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey sorry bout that sexy bum
1) yeah i know her name, i just havent contacted her outside of class.
2) i'm 18
3) no they are ignorant of each other's existence
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (1 March 2006):
 First I think if popularity was a huge issue with her, she would not have even started talking to you. Usually people that care about that are very careful of who they associate with on any level, even if it is just in passing, so I think you are good as far as that goes. Second, you worry about her outgoing personality against your shyness. People tend to find the most happiness with other people that balance them out. Your shyness could be just the thing she needs to help her stay grounded. What a crazy time it would be if you were both crazy in your face people out at a party! Third and most important, your best bet to a relationship would be to get her number, but you seem to realize that already. I think you may be over analyzing everything right now, I would try to relax and let things develop, get her number and ask her out for a specific day and time, and see where it goes. Good luck.
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (1 March 2006):
Hi I just want to ask you a few questions to help build my understanding a bit more.
1) Do you know this girls name? Its just when you said you didn't manage to get a screen name it sounded a sif you didn't know her name.
2) How old are you?
3) Was your crush friends or accomplice with your ex girlfriend?
If you could post an answer to these that would be great then I go ahead and give you my advice.....
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