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writes: My bf and i have been together for almost a year and hes getting sick of doing things together. I feel like i give him time with his friends but he still feels he needs a break from me. He never wants to hang out anymore and it really hurts. Im controlling because hes been my first true love and i dont want to lose him. I get jealous when he talks to girls. What can i do to give him a break but also be with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2006): Honey, if you love something set it free... if it come back its yours.. if it doesn't... it never was... who cares what he's doing... what are you going to do at that time is the question?... don't try and push yourself into his life... you will only push him away...
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (28 February 2006):
 Honour his wishes or you will drive him away altogether. Saying that I think you need to look at whether your relationship is going anywere, cos it sounds like he is moving on already and doesn't know how to tell you.
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reader, Miss life fixer +, writes (28 February 2006):
he says he wants his space and you obviously don't want to loose him so why don't you just see him about 3 days a week or let him do his own thing and ring him sometime and ask is he is busy if not suggest something to do this will give him space and he will feel like he can trust you to let him do his own thing, don't be jelous of other girls becuse if he wanted to be with someone else he woudl say so but he is with you. on the other hand if you want him to crave for you and make him want you then show him what you've got woman get all dolled up and make him see what potential you have. he will realise what he has and wont want to loose it.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (28 February 2006):
 How you feel is natural with your first love, but you need to slow it down a bit, it is your intensity that he is fighting and that is why he is reacting as he is.
May be though that if he is not wanting to do things with you as a couple that he is slowly finishing the relationship, you need to talk this through with him and see if he is doing this and if there is a future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2006): Dear, you need to do some serious self reflection on why you behave in this way, in the first place. You are a girl who is unable to trust. When someone acts controlling and jealous, she is filled with fear. By being controlling and acting out in in this way, you aren't dealing with your true feelings of uncertainty and fear. This is not healthy, hun. Sadly, this behavior is what is harming your relationship and if you don't deal with it-it will continue to haunt you in the future and in other relationships, you may undertake. Before you can save your relationship with this guy, you need to find out how you can help yourself to work out these 'issues of trust. You can have that healthy, loving, honest, trusting, committed relationship but it will take some work and I really think you need to get good, solid support and advice from a counsellor on how to deal with your fears. Please look into that. As for your bf, if he wants to take a 'break'..there's not a whole heck of alot that can be done to stop him. You have no choice..he does what he wants. It really seems like your behaviours have taken a huge toll on him. Get some advice from a counsellor and I wish you well in this, take care, hun and good luck.
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