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writes:Do people that seem to still love one another get divorced? There's no physical/emotional abuse to speak of, no alcoholisim or drugs, and no "omg..I just found out I'm gay". The problem is growing apart...and my husband works out of state. We haven't seen one another for more than a week at a time in the past nine months. I am miserable. He likes the job. He's a nurse and can get a job anywhere. He says this place pays the best. He will be an RN in another 1 1/2 years and still wants to commute afterwards. When he took this job I was with lots of reservation and told him so. He was in the middle of online courses and he ceased them to take this job. We were supposed to be starting a family and that got put on hold b/c he wanted to do this instead. I just am tired of all of my life decisions being made for me. I am 34 and it's my biological clock. And, no I can't move to where his job is..it doesn't make sense monetarily.
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reader, melschatbox +, writes (19 January 2007):
melschatbox is verified as being by the original poster of the question Let me clarify we were seeing one another 1 week a month. Now, with him enrolled in school it would be every 3 months unless I can fly up there to see him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): You both are stuck. You are married to a man who is content and comfortable working far away from you, when he can get work where you both live. And you don't want to move because for monetary reasons, it just doesn't make sense. As a result your marriage is empty simply because he's not there with you, and you aren' t there with him, to help you bth nuture and build your marriage. iEither one of you has to make a move to be with the other or this will end in divorce. It will get to the point, where no amount of compromise, no amount of counseling, no amount of efforts will make this empty relationship work.
If your husband is unwilling to move back home to be with you and you are unwilling to move to where he is...and this is causing you heartache then you are married to the wrong person, dear or you are the 'wrong' person for him. When we love someone passionately, deeply and with all our heart, then nothing that would keep a couple apart. I think you need to really, really think about this and realize you two may not have the love and committment to stay together. Listen to your heart and both of you need to either be together as man and wife or just stop pretending to be. I think it's time for you and hubby to have a good talk.
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