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writes:My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and we see each other only during the weekends. After one week of work, I look forward spending time with him. However, he on the other hand, would play his online games when he’s over at my house. I am such a good girlfriend that I bring him food and ask if he wants a drink often. After dinner (which he actually gotten off the computer for 30 minutes to sit at the dining table), he suggested to watch a movie together. I happily said, sure. Then he said, it’ll take him about 15 minutes to finish his game first, and then we can start watching the movie. I waited, and start doing my own thing to make time go by faster. After 1 ½ hours and with my upset face, he said let’s watch it now. However, his computer was right by him and he was checking once in a while to see if his character is doing alright. I was so mad but didn’t say a thing. It’s not like I don’t like him playing his games, but he gotta know when to stop. After the movie was over, he said he’ll just have a few things to finish off before going to bed with me. I was sleeping on the couch right beside him about 1 hr until he finally stopped playing. I was in tears. He said it’s his fault he got carried away and he will spend his attention more on me on our weekends together. Am I not as fun as his online game? I don’t want him to view me as a demanding girlfriend and needs to be spending every second with him, but I just want every weekend to mean something. What will happen when we live together? Since I see him everyday, I can see him playing online games on the weekend while we’re home together. Will this be a potential problem in our relationship and needs to be address now?
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reader, funkilla  +, writes (13 March 2007):
Oh man. I had the same problem with my boyfriend. I'd go to visit him 6 hours away one or two weekends a month in college, and he'd play World of Warcraft the whole time I was there, every time I was there. It definitely sucks, and I don't have any good advice except to bring it up with him. If you don't, you'll be stuck in a relationship that isn't fun. I ended up breaking it off with him.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (12 March 2007):
 Are we talking about one weekend or is this a standard pattern? If it's one weekend try and let it go since we all have weekends where we obsess about one thing. If it's every weekend it sounds like he needs a sharp wake up call. You need to tell him that he either doesn't play the games when he's with you or you're over. What you described is no way to live a relationship. You deserve better. However if its only occassional I would accept it as a little flaw and try not to let it bother you.
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reader, lamo +, writes (12 March 2007):
 you are just going to tell him how you feel. tell him you dont mind him playing but like any relationship you need we time away from the on line games tell him that you love him but need sometime togeter. if that dont work then you mite have to think about the relationship then tell him if its not working if he says that he will stop give him the chance if its till the same the tell him it over. dont keep giving him chance after chance coz then he will alk all over you
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