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*as95Firebird
writes:Um I don't know how to start this. I met this girl on an online chat website.. I'm sure everyone has heard of this online chat website. Anyhow we really like each other now. I tell her I love her all the time and we never run out of things to talk about we're really close now and I wanna be with her. However we talked it over and we realize that we just live too far apart(maybe 700 miles or so.) Is there any way this could possibly work. I could go see her if I had the money ... I would very much be willing to drive to see this girl if I had a dependable car. We just really click when we talk. we have lots in common. she's 15 and I'm 18.
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reader, ValeJ12 +, writes (22 June 2011):
 YES.!!!!! It could deffinately work.!!! My boyfriend is in the Navy in california. He BARELY got back to the country from 7 month deployment around the world. I very rarely see him and he is 5 years older than me. We have been dating for almost three years and I met him on.... Myspace... Yeah,, myspace. lol He is the BEST man I have ever met and gotten the privlage to be with. So YES you two can deffinately work out. Trust me. As long as you two truly truly love eachother, anything is possible. (A little corny I know) Just believe me. Never break something up because of distance. And now days we have phones, internet, and SKYPE. Thank God for skype. Wish you two the best.!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 June 2011):
 Everything KC said is right and then there is all of this:
and here's my take on LDRs...
1. they are not for the faint of heart, the emotionally needy, the immature, the impatient or the very young...
2. having never met fact to face, I would NEVER call myself boyfriend and girlfriend... FRIENDS yes...but nothing that ties you to each other in a romantic way that stops you from both exploring others in your area. LDRs suck. I'm in one and it STINKS... and we are only about 100 miles apart...
3. you need to be able to see each other on a REGULAR basis... so you need time and money and transportation.
4. LDRs require that you communicate, that you trust, that you are honesty... these are things that are hard for seasoned adults much less teens...
so my final answer:
just keep on talking
just be friends not romantic partners.
if you guys wanna go there at a later time when she's 18 then I think that's fine... but until then... tread carefully...
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (22 June 2011):
 I would be more worried about the age difference than the distance to be honest - what would her parents say if they found out? She is a minor, your relationship would be on very shaky ground and if anything turned even slightly sexual you would get into a lot of trouble.
I would put money on it that even if you could visit her, her parents would not let you stay over, nor would they let her stay in a hotel with you. So you would only be able to see her briefly during the day, probably with her parents supervision because of her age. So you would travel for 700 miles just to sit with her under her parents careful watch and then go home again in the evening because she is not allowed out with you. Not a great prospect really is it?
I suggest you remain friends until she is at the legal age of consent, then her parents might not be so upset by the idea of you coming to visit or her visiting you. Until then - the age difference and the distance will be too much to make a relationship work. All you can be is online friends, and wait until she is older.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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