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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for just shy of 2 years, we were highschool sweethearts and have been going steady. The past year we went to college and we started bickering over small things...our assumption is that it is because our frustrations with the 4 hour distance between us. The last few months almost everything he does just annoys me (ask me to repeat myself, sleep in late, spend money, wear wrong clothes, not shower) --- these are just examples of what gets to me lately. I used to love him for his quirks but suddenly he upsets me at the blink of an eye. I don't know what the source is, i always thought he was the man of my dreams but now i am worried about these feelings. Is this fading love? Stress of school and work? or could there be another cause?? i feel so bad for him...i am just so irritable. its like he can never do anything right. Any tips or ideas on what our/my problem is and a possible solution is GREATLY appreciated! Thanks!
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 June 2011):
 Welcome to the real world! What you're going through right now, has probably happened to most people at some point of time in their lives.
Keep in mind, every day is not the same. As the honeymoon period of a relationship slowly wanes, one begins to see the relationship in a more practical and not always romantic way. What I mean by this is, as you said, the very quirks which were so endearing earlier on, will seem like a pain right now. The very things that you loved in that person, will seem like an eye-sore.
This doesn't necessarily mean that love is fading, as i said, its a part of life. Other things take over, in your case its the pressure of studies plus a 4 hour long distance. Keep in mind OP, if you love each other, these things will happen. As you grow older together, and if you get married, there will be days when you cant stand looking at each other's faces. But at the end of it all, if you can overcome these little bumps along the way, that would be a dream.
No relationship is "perfect". No person is "perfect". But at the end of the day, if you feel that no matter what, you will make it work, because you cant do without your man, then you have your answer.
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