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writes:I have like this guy for a while we work together and soon he found out. i was ok when he didn't know because the only thing i knew is that i like him but now i know he likes me too. when some one tells you that or you hear that from someone you expect one or the other party to act on their feelings but that has not happened hear and i feel like he really doesn't like me, but little things he does proves to me that he does then what he waiting for. there is one part to this whole thing that might be hold him back but if this is what is holding him back i wish he would tell me you see he is my boss he is the general manager and i am one of his assistants. so my question is what do i do, i was thing about moving and that had nothing to do with this, i can't forget the way i feel really know that i know that he like me to but may be i need to because he is my boss. so my question is what do i do?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (13 January 2009):
 In work inviornment the boss is expected to maintain a personal realtionship only of that to his employee's. If he asks you out it could be against company policy and could cost him his job. There is another thing to consider and that is the laws that protect employee's from sexual harrassment. Sometimes getting involved with an employee, especially one of the opposite sex can be very tricky and dangerous to a point. Misunderstandings and/or other employee's who may know about a love affair between the boss and their co-worker could be misconstrued and rumors can add to problems in the work force. RUMORS CAN BE HURTFUL AND HARMFUL AS WELL.
I personally know of someone who went thru this. My daughter worked in a local grocery store. She met and took a liking to the STORE MANAGER. They became friends and starting out first by talking. They eventually after several months decided on casual dating. They were both still employeed at the store. After many months of nosey people trying to mind their business, my daughter finally went back to work with a FAST FOOD CHAIN RESTURANT where she had worked many years before.
Rumors has already started developing and she left to make more money but partly she was concerned about the effect the rumors and such would have on his job. They continued to date. The store eventually had a change over and some of the employee's were given a chance to REAPPLY for their jobs. Unfortunantly even after 12 years of FAITHFUL SERVICE and rarely anytime out being sick or other reasons, he got his walking papers. Not really fired but Passed over for the job. We don't know for sure but we all suspected that the situation and the rumors may have caused his not being REHIRED by the other company. Many companies have strict policies about dating employee's.
I would suggest that you play it by ear. If you find out for certain that he really likes you, it may be time for a career change. When you remove yourself from the workforce under his managment then you WILL be FREE to persue this. He will have no obgligation that should prevent him from persueing you as well. Things like this take time. Don't act in haste and prepare in case it's all headed in the right direction.
I hope this helps.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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