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writes: up until the other night this guy wasnt even on my radar, we work in different departments.but after the other night we kissed alot but i then found out he is married.he says its complicated but he really likes me and i really like him.is it really best to just leave it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007): Tell him you really like him but you are not going to date a married man--he needs to show you proof that he in the process of a divorce-this mean papers should have been served to his wife---you are too young for such a complicated situation--but old enough to know what you want
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): My guess is that the opportunity taken for this guy to get the nerve up to kiss you involved alchohol or drinking at a pub...sometimes people use this as an excuse to do things they are normally inhibited about doing.
Do you really have to ask this question, what are you looking for here by asking this, approval to cheat with a married man? You may not think of it in this terms, but if you were to go through with this act and start an affair with this man, you are in effect waging war as a direct threat to his wife, his children, his marriage and his livelihood.
The bigger question is do you want to be this kind of person? Do you want to go against what God and all that is considered holy in the sanctity of marriage to satisfy some need of yours to assauge your basic loneliness or horniness, or to shore up your lack of self-esteem of fill up some hole in your soul and attempt to remove him from his wife and children in order to do these things for you?
I think not, leave him and his family alone.
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reader, beautifulxxbrunette08 +, writes (16 December 2006):
 i dont mean to make you mad, but think of this. think of...let's say you don't leave it...you and him begin to move further and further and you think his wife will never know, she WILL find out (they always do) and it will jump up and bite you in the butt...so my suggestion to you would be to leave it. if my husband were to cheat on me and she were to know about me and still pursued it then not only would i go after him but i would beat her everlovin bum!! you need to stop while you are ahead before it escalates. because trust me, it isn't worth it. what if you were this woman, had a husband and didn't suspect anything and then one day it is said that your husband is cheating on you and the mistress knows about you...how upset and hurt would you be?? yes darling...leave it. you will thank me later.
good luck!!
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