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36-40,
*iza
writes:Hi guys i have an issue with my boyfriend...weve been together for nearly 2years and well he likes to be in denial about our arguments..but all we do is argue and im sick of it. Its complicated because i can get over things quite quickly because i see no point in arguing and i just wanna enjoy my time with him but you see he likes to think so hard about what we argue about that sometimes he feels so uncomfortable that he just goes home and sometimes doesnt want to hear from me for like 3days or so. I try and call or text message him and he ignores me. He says its selfish of me to want to get over things straight away..i know for bigger issues i dont mean to get over them completely but put them aside.but he doesnt he wants to solve it then and there its so frustrating please help.Im sick of waiting when hes ready, then come running back to me when he feels like it
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): babe he dont deserve you!
talk wif him
my bf yeh he is like that jus not as bad, he can take ages to reply to my texts and sometimes he doesnt even wana b wif me, u jus gota let him go a little talk to him and tell him but also give him space.
he shud jus drop the arguements and forget bout it.
it sounds like uze need space
hope it all goes well xxxx
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (2 July 2007):
 Sweetheart you should be able to continue seeing your friends no matter what.
When your relationship takes over and your bf is jealous that you are a popular girl and you knew these friends before you were with him, shows that you are the friendly one here and he is the one with the big problem.
Just don't be miserable, you are young and yes if he is your first bf and you are this unhappy then it is a true sign that this isn't right for you.
You are by far the stronger person in this relationship if you end it before it drags you down so far that your confidence has completely gone.
Why has he had 5 other relationships before you eh! Could he not be happy with any of those girls either, do you know any of them or ever talked to them as they could well end up saying the exact same things that you are dealing with now.
Your choice at the end of the day but when all the aunts are saying the same thing I think there in lies your answer.
Keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, aiza +, writes (30 June 2007):
aiza is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanx guys! ive thought about letting it go...letting him know he takes me for granted..that our love is more important than stupid arguments, its mainly to do with insecurities and his hurt over me being close friends with his previous school mates the thing is i knew them before i met him.Now ive sort of cut ties with them to be with him the thing is ive had it far worse considering hes my first bf and that hes slept with 5 other girls before me shouldnt i be the one feeling insecure..arggghhh hes a headache
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (29 June 2007):
 You are the only one who can stop running back to him. It'll be hard and you may think of going back. But isn't that taking the easier option rather than walking away from him and being happy.
Stop waiting around for him if it makes you unhappy. Maybe he'll see that he has to compromise aswell sometimes!
xxxxxx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (29 June 2007):
 If you are sick of waiting around babe, then don't do it anymore.
What kind of a relationship is argueing perminantely and then not talking for days afterwards, i have to agree with the other aunts on this, i think it's time this relationship came to and end.
Nothing to feel bad about some people are just not compatable.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (29 June 2007):
Have to say that I totally agree with bubbloo24, when you are constantly arguing there are real problems in the relationship.
His constant moodiness and hanging onto why he had a particular argument means that there is a lot more going on in his head than actually enjoying the relationship which is all that you want to happen.
Never ever text him if he is the one that storms off, respect yourself one hell of a lot more than that.
I think the problem here is that you do run to him and let him dictate how the relationship and arguments are controlled and that is what this whole thing is about.
Your bf has the control right now and you keep on asking for his permission to get back to normal.
Don't keep doing this, call it a day and he will be the one in shock.
Don't be in a relationship where you are unhappy.
You are young and this relationship is obviously too much for your bf right now. He needs to do a lot more growing up before having another gf I think.
You need to be with someone who enjoys spending time with you and wants to enjoy life, not spend time dwelling over the causes of an argument.
The time has come to move on sweetheart so cut the ties and make a stand. Show him you are now in control and you are tired and fed up with this b******t that he is tipping onto you.
The guy of your dreams could be someone who is waiting in the wings for things to end with your bf before he makes a move so don't wait get active and enjoy your life.
Take care.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, love-him +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Babe u no wot uve gota do, or u wudnt be on here.. you need to leave him alone.. honestly.. it isnt working.. find someone else, you both deserve it.. mail me if u wanna talk x x x x
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Time to end it by the sounds of things lovely.
I know it's hard, believe me, I know! But if you're constantly arguing and you're waiting around for him until he tells you to come back isn't a very happy or healthy relationship is it??
You don't want to be picked up and dropped when he feels like it - that's not a nice place to be and you're worth more than that.
Get out there and find someone who makes you truely happy and someone who'll respect you.
You're worth more than that hun.
Look after yourself. Do what's best for you, not him.
xxxx
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