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writes:Hello, So I am just so confused. I am 22 and in college right now. About a month ago I met this girl at ballroom dancing, we hit it off really well, and I got her number pretty quickly. We met for lunch, and then before I left for spring break we hung out at her apartment. Nothing happened, but we were close. Upon returning she has still been quite nice, and I even gave her a bracelet I bought her from home. But the thing is that is that it has proven very difficult for me to schedule time to see her. We were supposedly going to see each other on Saturday, but turns out she got to too tired from running a marathon. Then I was going to see her today at our class, but she just sent me a text message saying she is really busy and probably wont be able to make it to class. I called, she didn't answer, and sent a message saying she cant talk and what's up? And I texted back "Np. When can you talk?" And so far have gotten nothing. So I mean, is she interested? Is she undecided? Should I just not even try anymore? I am so frustrated right now, and apologize for making you sit through this ramble. If you have made it this far, please help me out with any advice on how to proceed with this girl. Now I am thinking I should've just texted something like "too bad, I hope you can make it" not this when can I call you crap.Thank you!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 March 2010):
Make her do some running. Pull back and see if she attempts to come to you. If she doesn't, then move on.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 Don't worry about what you said or didn't say in your text...it doesn't usually make a difference in the big scheme of things.
It seems that this girl is not too sure about things for some reason. Has she been dramatically different since her return from home? If so, perhaps something happened back home with another guy and now she's not sure how or if to proceed with you.
I think that if it gets too hard to schedule a time to see each other, then it means that one party is not too keen. If I was interested in you I would make sure to find some time to see you, simple as that.
I think you should leave her alone for a bit...see what happens. If you keep calling/texting it won't get you anywhere. You've made an effort and now it's up to her to reciprocate. If you back off a little you will soon find out if she's interested or not. If she never gets back to you or is vague again then she's not too keen. If she comes looking, you might still have a chance.
So sit back and let her show you if she's keen.
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