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writes: Alright guys I have a question. I had a date over the weekend out of town. (He lives like 3 hours away.) Anyway, I stayed there because I didn't want to drive home at 3 in the morning. Long story short, he was supposed to be on duty early the next morning. We left it that he was going to call off a half day so we could go get breakfast and spend a little more time together. (We only get to see each other less than once a week.) Anyway, he woke me up in the morning (6 a.m.) with a kiss then proceeded to try and have sex with me. I told him no twice and the issue wasn't pushed. He then got up and put his uniform on and left for work. So my question is was he pissed or was he embarrassed because I told him no? And to make matters worse I haven't heard from him. So I haven't been able to ask him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lostsoul +, writes (19 September 2006):
 I take it you hadnt slept together before, and he was like oh heres my chance hence all the niceties of a half day and going for breakfast etc. he simply didnt get his way so got the hump! Very shallow if you ask me and the fact you havent heard from him yet denotes he was only after the one thing and didnt get it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): The other Aunts have given you excellent advice, dear. This guy was upset and his 'ego' was brusied! I have this rule about guys like this: If you have to ask why he doesn't call or why he treated you this way, you should take this as a sign about never dating this jerk again. There's not much more to say about this except that you were well with your rights to deny him, his good time. He was attempting to 'use' you. Self-centered, uncaring men do this. They think of their own needs and no one else's. How he reacted and responded to the word 'no' (after the 3rd time!) is his problem. Be happy you are not hearing from this jerk. Move on and find someone who respects you and all women in general.
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reader, claire_x100 +, writes (18 September 2006):
 Oh dear that bloke acted like a gimp. Sorry but, you had the right to say no. He was pissed off because he couldnt get any and if he cant accept your answers and hasnt spoken to you then hes not worth it. Maybe him and ask him but just make sure he respects your decisions. Good Luck.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (18 September 2006):
 it sounds as though maybe he was a little pissed off at being rejected however he shouldnt have got on the way that he did. He could have at least said goodbye. Why dont you contact him and ask him why he hasnt been in touch?? if he really is acting petty over this then he isnt worth it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): He was pissed off and took it out on you by being in a mood.
If you were in a relationship with this guy you could have words with him and help him see the errors of his way, but if this was just a casual encounter you are best off just forgetting him.
When you sleep with someone who truely respects you, and knows you better they are less likely to do this. But without a history together where this respect can be developed, it's far easier to treat someone in the way he has treated you.
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