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writes: I have recently got very intimate with my new bf of 4 months. We havnt slept together yet but have fooled around alot trying new ways of coming without having full on penatrive sex. We have been trying for weeks now and i just can't get him to cum...any ideas? He says he is very comfortable with me..so has no idea why he hasnt. He is a vigin and has never come before - is this normal? Should i be worried? How can i get him to reach orgasm? thanku 4 ur time =)
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reader, sjd +, writes (19 September 2006):
 No don't worry...this could be multiple things. I know lotsa guys who cannot climax without sex or without the help of their own hand. If he is a virgin, he may have a little anxiety about climaxing in front of you for the first time. Assure him you are attracted to him. Then have him direct you on what feels good. Try different thigns (positions, angles, etc). If you are trying to get him to orgasm manually, have you tried lube or massage oil. If you are trying orally, have you tried teasing him for a bit or adding some foods such as fruit and yogurt to your play time? Since you are not having sex exactly. Try teasing the heck outta him until he gets over excited. Start at his neck slowly kissing him, work your way down his chest and stomach. Kiss everything but his area. Then lightly touch him until you have him squirming. Then have him tell you exactly what feels good....go slower faster. If this doesn't work, have him help you for the first time. Maybe if he gets off once with his help, you can fix it the rest of the times! Hope this helps. Oh another thing...don't show him your are disappointed that he cannot climax...this may increase anxiety making it harder for him to orgasm.
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reader, jackie69  +, writes (18 September 2006):
 Perhaps, he feels you are acting too desperate! and he doesn't like it?!
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