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writes:I want to spice things up in mine and my boyfriends sex life and we thought about having a threesome. I want to but have no idea who to choose to join us. We've agreed it must be a girl but I don't want a friend or someone I don't know at all! Help! My boyfriend still thinks it's a bad idea, as he thinks it will break us up. Any ideas or advice? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2006): I also want to spice things up in our relationship, we've discussed it and it seems that the majority of a man's fantasies are either being in a threesome w/ 2 women or seeing 2 women together. I think it would be wise not to choose someone you know as well as having guidelines and rules established between you and your boyfriend beforehand. I would want to both choose the other women and have a complete understanding of what he wants and what you want to do as your part in the threesome. I'm in the stage w/ my boyfriend of finally admitting he would like to have one, but he still is reserved in what his job would be and what he would want sexually. Until he can answer my questions of specifics of the sexual encounter, I can not fulfill his fantasy until I know exactly what he completely wants fulfilled
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reader, sunnydaysagain +, writes (21 December 2006):
I also want to spice things up in our relationship, we've discussed it and it seems that the majority of a man's fantasies are either being in a threesome w/ 2 women or seeing 2 women together. I think it would be wise not to choose someone you know as well as having guidelines and rules established between you and your boyfriend beforehand. I would want to both choose the other women and have a complete understanding of what he wants and what you want to do as your part in the threesome. I'm in the stage w/ my boyfriend of finally admitting he would like to have one, but he still is reserved in what his job would be and what he would want sexually. Until he can answer my questions of specifics of the sexual encounter, I can not fulfill his fantasy until I know exactly what he completely wants fulfilled
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): Hi - Me and my girlfriend are in the same position - we are a pretty hot couple but I dont know where to start to find a hot girl for us - any ideas?
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reader, soulmasseur +, writes (18 September 2006):
Three is a crowd! Throw the idea off away and get down to your relationship. Your seems to be strong and spicy enough and you don't need to flavor it up by dragging anybody els into a space they do not belong to. Personally I fundamentally disagree with any threesom idea because it sure ruins the foundation of your love-fed intimacy.
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reader, Toria +, writes (18 September 2006):
 I agree with your boyfriend, I think it is a bad idea! I once agreed when an ex of mine wanted a threesome and I really thought I was okay with pretty much anything put in my path, even though I had never been a jealous person I felt jealous and excluded, I spent most the time wondering if he was thinking that he has been missing out on other women since getting with me and to be honest I have never recovered from that experiance and shudder everytime a new boyfriend mentions the idea of a threesome, when it comes down to it, its your choice but with your boyfriend unsure you maybe pulling him into something he isn't comfortable with that he may only do because he loves you and wants to make you happy! think carefully before you do anything, and remember it has to be a complete joint agreement you both have to be 100% into wanting to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): Agreed, I think it is a bad idea. I think you've risked permanently damaging your relationship by giving your boyfriend the ability to have sex with another women. My guess is he thought it was a bad idea because he was in love with you. He probably didn't look nor was interested in other women sexually. It may be that he feels less exclusively intimate with you now. Personally speaking, if I knew my girlfriend would be ok with me having sex with another women, it would certainly make me value the monogamy of the relationship far less. Being faithful and commited to one person is a special thing, once it's lost, you'll never get it back.
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reader, b3x +, writes (17 September 2006):
 *boat* not bost
Typing in the dark is not a good idea! xx
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reader, b3x +, writes (17 September 2006):
Bad idea hun!
Obviously your bf isn't really up for it, he seems reluctant about the idea!
Another thing I don't think having a 3 some is going to spice your love life up anymore, you going to be arranging these on a regular basias or something? If you think spicing things up a little means having a 3 some then what you guys going to go when its just you two wanting to make love?
I don't think him seeing you with another girl may break things up, a guy I do yes. But there are loads of others ways you can add a little spice in your love life, maybe do a google search or use your imagination a lil more.
Just imagine though, seeing your bf get off with another girl....personally for me, seeing my fella get off with anopther girl is NO turn on for me.
I guess whatever floats your bost, but do try another option before you try a 3 some! xx
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