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writes: Me and my ex have been talking over the internet every day for about 3 days. We flrt a lot, and we obviously both still like eachother, but we are both confused as to what we want. We broke up 2 months ago but it didn't really end, as we were like sex buddies but with a little more to it then that. Even when he had a girlfriend he stayed over and we had sex. I haven't seen him for 3 weeks, but talking to him again reminded me of how happy he made me, and made me realise how unhappy I am without him. But I'm still trying to stop myself from falling for him again, because I know it's going to be me who ends up getting hurt, as it always is in our relationship.He doesn't stop flirting with me, and seems to be continuing what he's been doing for the past 2 months; saying he doesn't want to be with me anymore but can't seem to help himself. He told me yesterday that he promised himself not to be in a relationship with me again.So basically, we're both still into eachother but trying not to be, and neither of us seem to be getting anywhere. Neither of us know if we want eachother or not, and we're getting nowhere. What can I do?
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reader, heartbrokenxx +, writes (17 November 2006):
 First of all you have got to figure out wat you want, and wat you get from the outcomes. You need to set things straight with him!
If you want to move on because he wont be with you then you need to stop having sex with him and tell him not to flirt anymore if he doesnt want to be with you.
If you want him back, make it clear to him that that is wat you want and you want to move on in life.
Although, if you want to continue being sex buddies then you need to learn to put aside ure feelings for him and not to get the wrong idea each time you guys do something! if he doesnt want to be with you but wants to have sex and its the same for you aswell.. You need to do it without any attachments.
I know this may seem pretty intruding and hard to hear. But i'm just telling you my oppionion because thats wat your here to ask :):)
i hope i helped
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (17 November 2006):
 You need to leave this guy alone for all sorts of reasons. Firstly, he had a girlfriend and was sleeping with you - it is surely not a good sign about his integrity is it? Secondly, he tells you he is not up for a renewed relationship with you but still has sex with you (think more of yourself than to settle for such shoddy treatment). Thirdly, he distracts you from finding someone who will treat you nicely. You are not getting nowhere with this guy and he knows he can visit for a booty call - you will end up getting hurt and he won't care about that because he thinks about himself too much.
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