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writes: I have a question...My husband and I are in our late 30's. Married 5 years. both on 2nd marriage.Sex life almost non-existent past year or so. It happened insiduously. Probably due to stress and work and forgetting to stop and focus on the other one. We finally realised it. Some fighting, some making up, some deciding to put more effort into it...And past 3 months we have been great. At first we made effort to have sex every night and it is good to be back at that level of intimacy. But then last 6 weeks or so, my husband has been getting more adventurous. New positions etc. Then produced a set of handcuffs. Then interested in spanking. Then wondered it I want to try anal. It is all kinda exciting and some things worked better than other! ;-)So I asked him like , wow whats all this then? And he smiles and says: just keeping it exciting. Which of course i appreciate, but am just a little concerned with where this is all going... I mean why does every encounter have to be out of the norm, as it were.Why cant we just have plain, no frills added sex?And if he has to go to all this effort to "keep it exciting", what will happen when we eventually have tried it all?? Will it be over then?I feel as if under the surface he is trying a bit too hard, if you know what i mean?What do you guys think?
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (6 August 2009):
I think hes a conessiuer of sex. Some people like films, and some people know every actor and watch every film that comes out.
It is out of the ordinary but i wouldnt call it weird.
Theres nothing to worry about, he might get a bit bored at some point but there isnt much that can be done about that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): Wow!
With respect, this doesn't sound like a problem!! The two of you decided to put more of an effort in, and the results seem to be exactly what you would have wanted. I'm sure there are plenty of jaded couples, whose sex life has withered to non-existent, and who'd really love to re-ignite the lust the way you two have done.
If you're enjoying this and find it exciting, great. If you feel it's going too far and aren't happy with the handcuffs and anal, you don't have to do it. If you'd prefer 'plain, no frills added sex' (doesn't sound great to me!) tell him so. Count your blessings, keep communicating as best you can, and keep it up!
Good luck
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (6 August 2009):
 Hang on you moan when your not getting any now you moan hes wanting it to much....You are a very lucky lady alot of sexlifes just fizzel out and thats it....your man wants to try new and kinky stuff.....just enjoy and give the man some credit for trying!!!
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