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*oingcrazy
writes:Ok now I know most women want a man who pays attention to them and kisses them all the time.... well i thought that is what I wanted.. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 months and I feel like I am about to lose it.. He is always texting me, calling, when I dont answer the phone and I call him back he asks what I am doing and what have i been doing all day... but he makes it sound like he is just wondering how my day is going, I feel that he is just using that line as an excuse to be nosey, and when we are together he is always constantly kissing my shoulder or whatever and it has gotten to freakin annoying. He has even came up with a plan for us to move in together in a year and has made comments about marriage... I feel like he is too emotional and I am going crazy. He tells me he loves me and that I am everything to him and how much he is in love with me... but I just think to myself that we haven't been together that long WTF?? UGH what do I do????
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (9 February 2008):
Ok first off, do you want in or out of this relationship? Are you prepared to give it another shot if he could 'cool it down' a bit? If so, then you need to tell him how you feel in the nicest way possible. I wouldnt accuse him of being nosey though as Im sure he feels he is just being a caring and is very interested in you and probably misses you a lot. So dont punish him for being in love. I think if you do talk to him about this, you will run a high risk of upsetting him so you have to be careful and remind him of your love for him. However part of me thinks you want to give up on this and it jsut might not work between the two of you because you said you find him too emotional.
If you dont want to continue the relationship then I think you need to break up with him. Tell him you love him but this relationship just isnt working for you. Hope this has helped.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 February 2008):
 I agree with Laura1318: tell him he's becoming a nuisance.
Also, I respectfully disagree with the agony aunts who say you should ask for "space". Your boyfriend sounds like he feels he's in heaven. If you don't speak to him clearly, he will feel confused and will cling MORE, because he will feel he needs an explanation. He'll think something like "WTF, I was giving her all of my attention, all of my love, "WE, THE TWO OF US" were very happy, et cetera.... and now she asks for space? Maybe I'm not expressive enough? I haven't proved I love her?" And then you will have a hell of a problem.
Of course, if it's already too much, break up.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 February 2008):
 Communicate your feelings to him. Too much of one thing is a put off.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (9 February 2008):
 Ask him for some space, or tell him that you are not comfortable with PDA (public displays of affection in regard to the shoulder thing), but also let him know that this doesn't mean that you are ashamed of him. Tell him that you love him, but feel that things are moving too fast. If he refuses to give you space, take space, and don't let him try to guilt-trip you either about it if you do. I really don't know the type of person he is, I know that it all depends. Some guys can start out like that and gradually wane off, but others it might take forever or they will always be that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): You should break up, or tell him that you need space. If he loves you as much as he says, then he should be able to give you some room. If you are not comfortable with him showing affection, then tell him that. If you like him always trying to make a move, then tell him that. I think what this relationship needs is some communication. You should tell him that you are going crazy because of him.
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