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*rahn
writes:I have an open relationship with a guy. We both have an understanding that we can date other people and that we have no need to lie to one another because...well its an open relationship. I wouldn't even call it a relationship because we are not really in one. We are just enjoying each others company; amongst other things ha-ha. We haven't spent any time together for about a week now, and every time I ask him what he is doing after school and work he always has some excuse. Sounds to me like he has an eye for someone else. But why can't he just tell me instead of making up excuses to why we can't get together? He has no reason to lie. I wouldn't be upset, I wouldn't be jealous, I would be extremely understanding because that's what we agreed to, and he knows that. It just doesn't make sense to me.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (17 March 2010):
 I am glad you learned from this.
In life respect yourself above all others and recognised when your being used. That way you will avoid getting into bad relationships and will have a happier life.
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reader, Arahn +, writes (16 March 2010):
Arahn is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well I thought you guys would like to know that I learned my lesson. This was the first time I have ever did anything like this, I didn't know how to feel or act. But thanks for the advice.
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (16 March 2010):
 if your in an open relationship and he is making excuses not to meet up with you are you sure he wants to continue this with you?there might be someone else your right but your not in a relationship and although you agreed to be honest with eachother he still has the right to keep it from you if he wishes.you need to ask him if he wants to continue seeing you as he has become distant and then go from there
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Sorry hun, but you are just a friend with benefits... you have no control or say over his relationships...
He is using you for his pleasure... time to move on with your life and find someone who wants to be in a relationship with you not just have you as a friend with benefits.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (16 March 2010):
He isnt telling you because he basically doesn't have to. You have some kind of crazy non- relationship which sounds like a 'friends with benefits' deal to me. It's really dumb to make verbal agreements with people that you will be completely open...People are NEVER completely open in these kinds of set ups because thats the whole point. You have sex and go your seperate ways...if your not bothered and wouldnt be jealous, why do you even need to know??
Reading between the lines it looks like you want to have some control over him because you think he owes you, because you had sex.
You don't need to be understanding, because it's none of your business what he does when he's away from you...like you said 'I wouldn't even call it a relationship because we are not really in one.'
Get over it, move on and quit having casual sex with people who are using you.
GRRRRR!!!!!
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