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*oyohelp
writes:My question is simple. Although my "getting back with ex is a little better along then most I have read, I am still not out the woods yet. My ex broke up with me 1 month ago, I did all the wrong things in the first week but then manned up and did not talk to her. She still called me and texted me. When I met my ex i had a really good job the first 3 months. then with the economy got laid off. During the next 4 months I couldn't find a job which brought tons of stress and complications. I found another job finally and everything started to get better. then 3 months later, the company lost the contract and I was jobless again. so 2 months after i lost that job she called it quits, was a nasty breakup. Then as I mentioned in the begining, the breakup/getting back together stage started. since the no talking she came to my house and told me she still loved me but she had to be sure that I was the person she fell in love with and not some bum on the couch. Since that night I have spent a lot of time with her and started sleeping with her on a regular basis, I also have a good job again but she (I think is waiting to see if I keep it) still won't commit back to me 100%. She still tells everyone we are not back together, I am going to sleep over there tonight. I guess what my question is 'Should I keep doing what I am doing? or should I not make myself so available. ps we are getting along great and having fun again.
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reader, yoyohelp +, writes (17 March 2010):
yoyohelp is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell, I see where you are comming from but i didn't have any for her to go after. we had just been through alot of stressful times not having the money, but i think you make a good point, I know she still wants a relationship with me, thats obvious but as you said in order to get her full attention I think i need to stop being so available because she is getting all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 if she isnt willing to commit 100% and you are id say make yourself less available because your going to put strain on yourself are you sure she wasnt just with you for money?
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