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writes: i'm 19 and theres this 29 yr old guy that likes me! we are slowly getting closer as friends! he is really kind and friendly and he is easy to chat to! but none of my friends seem to like him, also i dont know if the age gap is too big for us to have a relationship! is 10yrs too much? Reply to this Question
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reader, tshan1979 +, writes (10 May 2006):
age isnt a matter, either is what your family or freinds say, they will be happy in time when they see you are happy my partner is 16 yrs older than me and he treats me far better than someone my own age. moast ppl found it a shock but now they are fine about the age gap as they can see me and my kids are happy so dont worry what ppl say do what is right for you
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reader, Angel_A +, writes (4 May 2006):
 I was 19 when I met my first serious bf, he was 30 - so only slightly older than your man. We were together over 6 years so age gaps don't necessarily mean that it won't work - but listen to your instinct and to your friends would be my advice.
Over time I found that my bf was actually quite immature, don't get me wrong he had a great job, we bought a house together etc - but somehow he seemed to think he was 20 and there seemed to be no any real long term plans. Even now (we broke up quite a few years ago) he's still living life the same, going down the pub and not "developing" his life. I also didn;t realise he was a much stronger character than me, and as I grew older and developed more self-confidence, he grew to resent it and then things just all went wrong.
Try and get your friends to be more specific about what they don't like about him - and LISTEN to them! lol - they may see that he's controlling you or something like that and that could ring alarm bells for you - or at least make you aware of it so as to avoid falling into the trap of being controlled.
I do hope it works out for you- and as I said it can do for many people - 10 years age difference isn't that bad and I do know lots of relationships that have worked out with the same gap or longer.
Good luck hon x
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reader, Sis6372 +, writes (3 May 2006):
Age is just a number honey, My boyfriend is 6 years older than me and the way I look at it is, my grandparents are 16 years apart and my whole life they have had the best relationship out of any couple I know, so loving and the best of friends. Age is just a number but happieness is an emotion. And your friends will deal or they weren't your friends to begin with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2006): personally..i don't take much notice of age gaps...if you would be happy with someone, then i don't see the problem.. as for your friends..is there a reason they don't like him? if you can see yourself with this guy then i say go for it! your friends will come around to the idea of the two of you together.
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