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writes:I started dating this guy about 9 months ago. After a couple of months we both kind of grew apart romantically but became really good friends. We would share stuff about our romantic lives and things were going fine. Then I found out that I was pregnant and it was his baby. He had just rekindled a really intense relationship with his ex and I didn't know what to do. I made the decision to terminate the pregnancy. This caused some crazy drama for a couple of months, but we eventually talked about everything and made an effort to be friends again. About a week after we made up his girlfriend broke up with him (for unrelated matters) so we've been spending a lot of time together again.We have this crazy history together and I was really trying to just remain friends with him, but I find that I am starting to have romantic feelings for him again.I know that it's wrong and that he's still trying to get over this other girl and that he really hurt me in the past, but I can't stop thinking about him and I keep wanting to call him (like every ten minutes). This is crazy!As far as I know he has no romantic feelings for me at all, so this is unrequited love. How can I get over this and try to remain friends?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (28 December 2010):
 You can't, there's just way too much history for that to be possible. The best thing you can do is be honest with him about what you're feeling. Being open about such things is the only way I've found to be able to move on. If you bottle everything up, you'll just end up hurting more, and having that feeling never really go away.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 It could be near on impossible to be just friends with an old flame. He seems like you are second best on his re bound with the ex girlfriend, which puts you in danger of becoming his ex again when someone new comes along. he knows you are there for him romantically and he will take advantage of this. Make a decision, either be his lover, or be his friend. The two won't mix now.
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