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writes:I am 21 years old and have a 10 month old baby. My baby's father is 10 years older than me and he has 2 kids with his previous relationship. We always seem to fight because the other girl won't leave him alone. She looks for him and disrespects me like she's his wife, and he doesn't do anything about it. What should i do? Right now he's in jail; I haven't heard from him. But every time I try to tell him that she has to stop doing what she's doing he gets mad at me and leaves. What should I do? I'm so confused, I don't know if i should leave him...
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reader, bemused  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Hi hun.
From the sound of your post you have a lot on your plate right now. You are a young mom in a relationship with a guy who is currently in jail. On top of that he has another family which in his eyes is on equal footing with you...or that is the way you feel. You are also fighting about it. It does not sound to me like this is a good situation for you. I guess it comes down to one thing. Is he willing to put you as number one or not.I worry that you say he is in jail. You are young.If you have no career options right now there is help out there. I guess you need to think about what is best for YOU and your little one. You have to ask yourself if you can see yourself in this relationship forever or if there might be a good job and a better guy out there. I am hoping that if you do leave there is a place for you to stay while you sort through all of this. I hope this helps xxx:)
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reader, Veasse  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 I know you dont want to hear this but the priority now is your baby.
Its not a good environment for a baby to have this other woman starting fights and this man acting disrespectful to you. He should protect you and he isnt.
Look after you and your baby, dont let him control the situation. Seek comfort and support in friends and family and leave him alone, if he loves you he will come to you and protect you as his new family.
His priority is his children, he has baggage with this other woman, of course he cant break ties when he has children with her. If you cant deal with that then just make sure that he is there for the baby.
Sorry it seems a muddle right now, but i will stress that the BABY is paramount.
take care
Veasse x
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Your ex needs to start stepping up to his ex. She has no right to disrespect you. She jealous as you have her ex and have a child with him. She needs to grow up and get over it.
If he gets mad when you explain that you don't like what his ex is doing I would seriously think about ending it with him. Concentrate you on and your kid and making the child happy. An unhappy Mummy isn't good for your child :)
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