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writes:I am in a new relationship after the death of my husband in 2007.How do I deal with an emotionally sensitive person?we hardly communicate effectively. I don't know how to handle this. Reply to this Question
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (13 February 2011):
 Maybe you should try and talk more on the phone then, rather than through text, to try and avoid silly misunderstandings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
To elaborate more, he is very critical & not appreciative has admitted that he has not learned to appreciate, saying in his upbringing he was never appreciated but always rebuked. Our communication is not effective as we always misunderstand each other. For example, he would say something when I want clarity, he would say it was a joke and claim that I have misinterpreted & further say he always offend people unintentionally. Thereafter he'll be reluctant to continue with conversation. Most of the time we communicate through text messages as we are far apart. I even advised him to avoid to share sensitive matters trough text msg rather call each other to avoid misunderstandings. To quote him "scared even 2talk as im bound 2offend" this was after a misunderstanding about his critical comment on my foto & he later apologized saying he was joking. I would say he seem to be emotionally sensitive as he sometimes shoe boredom & makes me confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo elaborate more, he is very critical & not appreciative has admitted that he has not learned to appreciate, saying in his upbringing he was never appreciated but always rebuked. Our communication is not effective as we always misunderstand each other. For example, he would say something when I want clarity, he would say it was a joke and claim that I have misinterpreted & further say he always offend people unintentionally. Thereafter he'll be reluctant to continue with conversation. Most of the time we communicate through text messages as we are far apart. I even advised him to avoid to share sensitive matters trough text msg rather call each other to avoid misunderstandings. To quote him "scared even 2talk as im bound 2offend" this was after a misunderstanding about his critical comment on my foto & he later apologized saying he was joking. I would say he seem to be emotionally sensitive as he sometimes shoe boredom & makes me confused.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (13 February 2011):
I agree with the fact that we need some more information from you, but i would hazard as guess that it's just about taking baby steps when it comes to talking. Don't flood him with your thoughts and feelings, talk about things a little bit at a time whilst you both get comfortable communicating with each other. Over time you will be able to talk about more and more.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (13 February 2011):
 Perhaps you could write again and give us some examples of how you "don't communicate effectively." It's hard to know what feedback to give you with so little information.
I could say right off-hand to listen to what your new friend is saying before jumping in with a response.......but we could do with hearing more from you.
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reader, Shelley Harris +, writes (13 February 2011):
 Hi,
This is tricky as I don't know the person involved but I would tell them you want the relationship to work but you are not sure if the communication is working successfully. Ask them how they feel about what you said and ask if you could make a plan that will work for both of you. Have a discussion about what each of your 'needs' are around the communication issue so that you are both comfortable and both know how the other feels. I know this might be difficult but you have to open up communication if this is to improve.
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