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30-35,
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writes:I've been dating this guy for only 2 weeks and he's been saying he loves me since before we even started dating. He's always been a really good friend of mine and well we had sex the other day...now I seem to be regretting and doubting a lot of things...I don't know how to tell him or if I can Reply to this Question
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (25 January 2010):
When you sleep with a guy this quickly you cheapen yourself. You have made yourself so easy that's why you are in doubt. But the guy will probably keep the illusion going to keep getting the sex until he meets a girl who makes him wait a bit longer. A guy in his teens can say anything to get laid. But in reality, a guy his age needs to date a girl for at least 1 year before he forms a definite emotional attachment that will outlast the sex. So at your age, try date a guy for 1 year before sex. In your 20's you can do 6months and in your 30's and up about 3 months is ok. Ofcourse this means you won't had new guy sex very often, but then again you won't have all these issues either.
As for this guy, just tell him that you would like to slow things down a little and get to know him better before doing it again. Don't get all emotional and teary. If he really likes you he will agree. If not then better he goes now.
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reader, sltaylor +, writes (25 January 2010):
 Well, if he really loves you and is really your friend then he will respect your decision to not have sex. Just let him know how you feel.
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reader, ilaila +, writes (25 January 2010):
I'm sorry the experience wasn't filled with other, more positive, emotions. Think through things - what are you regretting? You can't change regrets but you can change things going forward. And the doubts - well, we're women...we can think through a situation forwards, backwards and just about every other angle there is and that's probably what you're doing...analyzing everything - seeing what will change between the two of you and what will stay the same and was your decision to have sex with him the right one. First of all - know yourself. Know what you want out of the relationship going forward and what you're comfortable with and what is best for you then talk to him. Hope you used protection...good luck with everything!
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