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*heerwhore23
writes:Ok so I like this guy and he lives about a hour away..we met when I was in 7th grade and thought he was really hot..we texted eachother a few times them kind of just stopped..I dropped my phone in a lake and lost his number..then this year I saw him at a basketball game..I didn't talk to him because didn't think he would remember me..that night I got a text from him saying how pretty I looked and how he wondered why I never texted him anymore..we started talking everyday and met up at the next basketball game..it was kind of awkward so we didn't talk much..after that my guy friend asked him if he liked me and he said just as a friend..ever since then we haven't really been talking as much. He's the first guy I think I actually like since my super hard breakup..should I just forget about it?
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (6 June 2009):
 I disagree with the statement, friends equals no love. I have an opposite sex friend and we definately love each other, but we are not "in love." And, it's the one of coolest relationship I have.
How to build a friendship...Text casually every now and again. Maybe text when you know of a game you think he might be at and mention that you'll stop over and chat if you see him and ask him to do the same. Be interested but not clingy and don't chase. Guys hate that. But also don't be so aloof that he thinks you're not interested. Guys do like attention. You can build on these moments and be comfortable around him. The relationship will build itself from there.
All the best...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): when anyone says he or she likes as friends thats mean no love
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): when your guy friend asked him whether he liked you, he might have been a bit embarassed so said he just liked you as a friend. Guys get quite shy when it comes to admitting feelings. He might just want to take things slow. You haven't seen eachother a while now so how does he know that youfeel the same way. You should still carry on being his friend then just see where things go. Don't give up just because he said he liked you as a friend to your guy mate.
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reader, cheerwhore23 +, writes (6 June 2009):
cheerwhore23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits kind of hard to build a friendship with him since he lives far away..I don't know when we will see eachother next but i don't want to text him all the time and annoy him..so how do I become friends with him?
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (6 June 2009):
When we get the opportunity to build a relationship we should start out slow. Especially if you've had a hard break up. Don't just jump into a love relationship.
If you develop a friendship you will get the opportunity to get to know this guy without the complications. You will learn so much about yourself and what you want in a relationship. If you find that you want more and he doesn't OR he wants more and YOU don't then you'll have to find your way around the feelings or cut the friendship off. But having a guy friend is so wonderful.
In life we are so quick to dispose of relationships because they aren't instantly what we want. If you build on a friendship you will learn how to function in a relationship (yes with a man) and I guarantee that what ever man you end up marrying you WILL want this kind of friendship you would have developed so all is not lost.
The best relationships are developed over time.
And who knows, maybe he didn't want to label the relationship with this other guy too soon...and you shouldn't want to either.
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