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writes:hi there, i have a question for you all, well i really like this guy and he is 23 and im 15 some of my friends say he is too old and some say that aslong as he is respectful in my decisions and he doesnt push me into things then its okayy, but i need some more opinions from people that have and havent been through this.what shall i do, what choice shall i make ? xcheers many thanks to all replies x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): nobody can answer this question for you hun, there are underlying factors of which are important though; depending on how mature you are for 15 years old, is one of them, because you have gone to great length to write this article i believe you are a mature 15 year old.
at 15 you are under the lawful age of having sex with this man, and unfortunately that is potentially what other adults will assume. i also dated a man older than me when i was 15, he was 19, and we never had sex or anything we genuinely enjoyed each others company, had loads in common and fell in love.. we got married too and have two gorgeous teenage children. We both had a rough time with peoples criticism of our relationship, and if i could turn back time i would rise above their nasty remarks. My husband did not pressure me for sex, and he waited a whole year before we "both" decided to have sex.
So my advice is; so long as you respect yourself and him, and very importantly he respects you, then enjoy eachothers company and listen to sensible advice, but ignore the bias and judgemental people who criticise everything around them because of their own insecurities.
Most importantly discuss this with your parents or guardians, i do not know you well enough to offer personal advice, there are no set rules in life, we learn from mistakes, just be safe and never allow anyone to pressure you into anything you do not agree with. Take care! and good luck
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (7 June 2009):
 To male anonymous reader.
The school has a right to keep all pupils safe and as he was picking her up from school they felt it was nessasary to contact social services.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your replies and advice i can now happily tell you that we have both decided to be friends nothing more :D x
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (6 June 2009):
 He is too old for you, and will try to push you into things, a 23 year old guy will want sex, he'll want to go clubbing with his girlfriend, he'll also want to take her to films with a rating over 15!
Also if his friends find out about you they will take the piss out of him ALL the time! So he won't introduce you to his friends and try and keep your relationship secret which is never a good thing.
All in all any 23 year old who wants to date a girl that much younger than him is after one thing only and that is illegal!
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (6 June 2009):
 One word...YES!
He is WAY too old at this point in your life. a 15 year old has not the life skills necessary to be in a relationship with a 23 year old. If you were 18 and he has 26 (both adults in the eyes of the law) it would be different. But you are a minor.
And he at best is someone of weak makeup to be chasing a 15 year old around.
Please listen carefully to what has been written by the other poster, because they are all right. I think this guy wants a piece of ass off you and nothing more.
And in most countries in the western world, if you did engage in any physical activity it would be considered a crime on his part, punishable by Prison time.
So please think about this young lady, think really hard
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): Age is just a number. To olivia the it was NOT the schools buisness and putting the girl into care was NOT a good choice meddling people. . .
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): Don't listen to Santashelper. Don't date this guy he will take advantage.He will be nice to you and when he thinks you are in love with him he will make you do things and make you think it was your idea.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (6 June 2009):
A 23 year old man is way to old for you.
My friend is 15 and dated a 22 year old man and the school found out and contacted the police and social services and she was taken into care because social services felt she was unsafe at home because her parents didn't know about this to stop it from happening. The 22 year old got a prison sentance and name was put on the sex offenders list.
DON'T DATE THIS GUY. Full stop. Not meaning to sound out of order but do you really think this man loves you? No he doesn't he thinks your young and vunrable so he can easily take advantage of you.
Its fine having feelings for older men but while you are a young teenager only stick to boys in their teens. I'm with a guy who is 17 and i have a really good relationship with him because he respects and loves me. A guy in his 20's+ won't respect you at all.
Livia
xoxox
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reader, be11is +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Hey there, I'm Fifteen myself actually and just recenty broke it off with someone i was dating and they were Eighteen. It's fine to date older people, but you might want to re-think that Twenty-three year old. Some people are very skilled at tricking Girls into thinking their this reallyyy nice Gentleman, when in reality their really just as bad as the scum found under our shoes. What I suggest is to keep it as friends for now ya'know. Your a very smart girl for not just jumping into it.
Take care xoxo
- B
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): at this stage in your life, yes he is too old for you. you just have crush on him, and it will pass. besides, you are too young and if you ever convince him to get involved with you, you will be putting him at a lot of risk which could ruin his life forever. as you get older, the age differences begins to get less and less pronounced. For example, there is a world of difference in the maturity level, preferences, and acceptance by the society at large between a 15 yr old and a 23 yr old VS a 25 yr old and a 33 yr old. you are too young. protect yourself. and don't let a crush or other such foolish thoughts let ruin your or someone else's life. rule of thumb: if you are afraid to ask your parent about it, it probably ain't good for you!!! be extremely carefull.
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reader, JAYT  +, writes (6 June 2009):
i have a friend shes 16,she dated a guy when she was 14 who was 22 yrs and let me tell you things didnt workout 4 both of them and she was hurt badly,so if your thinking of dating this guy you got 2 know what ur getting urself in,coz ur both dont have any same interest hes probably going 2 play u around coz ur young and plz..u r 2 young u still have so much ahead of u 2 make this mistake which will hamper ur progress in life.so think abt it carefull
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reader, Santashelper +, writes (6 June 2009):
 well he is older so you have to be careful. if you want you should start dating. take it slow to see if he really wants YOU not ur BODY... best of luck with him
xxxsantashelper
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