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anonymous
writes:hi everyone...Well... my problem is similar to many girls here. I've been goin out wih this guy since almost 7 yrs now. Both our families knows all bout it infact his parents talked to my parents and its all good. We mite get engaged very soon but the problem is that now i feel he dont really care about me.1. he lies..2. he never has much time me.. either he has to b with his friends or he have to watch nymovie or anything.. i come last in the priority list. We end up fighting every single day, i really love him and i know he does too but i don't know where the problem lies.. he dont understand me... worst part is tht our families are involved and they all are very excited and happy about it. I really dont know what to do..
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (4 February 2008):
 Don't live for your parents, live for what will make YOU happy, and you don't sound happy. Don't accept a marriage proposal. Tell him your concerns about where the relationship is going, try counseling and then move on if things don't improve.
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reader, vero31 +, writes (3 February 2008):
I think you should go with what your brain is telling you.Leave him, he is not good to you, is not good for you. I was married to a liar, they don't change, he used his work as an excuse, he didn't want to commit, an he never will, not even to his daughter.Save yourself strees, tears and pain. Love yourself MORE, don't allow anybody to treat you like this. I learned this the hard way.Be smart, and about the family, they will have to accept that you are an adult, and you decide what is good for you.I hope you find a good man who makes you his priority.And makes YOU happy, we don't have to sacrify ourselves for no one.
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reader, Ziggy Z +, writes (3 February 2008):
I am not sure how you define love, but I can tell you it does not include arguing every day. Love includes compatability, maturity, getting along, being in agreement in most things.
You are deceiving yourself if you think you are in love and argue every day. I have not argued with my partner more than 1x ever 6 months. Once you can do that, then you may say you are in love.
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever-  +, writes (3 February 2008):
 I think you seriously need to think about how much you love this guy. And if you don't think you do then you need to call it off. Do you think you would be able to spend the rest of your life with someone who has you last on their priority list and lies to you?
This is about how you feel, not how your family feel. If you don't think you and your boyfriend can last then tell them... don't carry on pretending to them that everything's ok.
Hope this helps, send me a message if you wanna talk about things.
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