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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for two years now and like we have been arguing a lot lately and i want to strengthen the relationship and so does he. He brought up the idea of marriage and a bright future. But we want to manage a way to stop arguing or at least reduce it. Then wait until we get a little bit older.I have been very stressed yet he still stays by my side, no matter how naggy i get...But the other day we got into an argument and he said something that hurt me deeply.He apologized, but i am still hurt...what should i do? is he a good guy to start with? Reply to this Question
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reader, december +, writes (18 December 2010):
I think both of you should take a big break from each other and date other people. Your story sounds like I and my boyfriend, we dated and argued A LOT we also talked about marriage and kids the whole thing, he was always by my side too, we dated for 7 years and 2 months just last year 2009 December we got into a huge argument about car insurance that he didn't pay on time like he was supposed to and car had no insurance for 2 weeks, we argued he left never came back, he would then call me time to time, I thought we would of gotten back together we didn't. He was my whole world I was so in love and I believed him when he said he wants to get married just not now and he kept pushing the date, he too hurt me many times and aplolgized to me. I am 40 years old hurt and alone now, if I would get to do this all over again I would never be with him for that long, but you have time on your side cause you are very young still, go and date other guys you will meet someone who will be much better to you and if your a good person and you do right you deserve the same back, so don't settle yet with this guy. GOOD LUCK
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and the same like you in the relationship for 2 years, just like you thought things will change for us cause exactly like you and your boyfriend I and my boyfriend argued A LOT and we also talked about a future together, marriage, kids the whole thing and he too was always by my side, but difference between you and I is that you have age on your side I don't last year December 2009 we got into a huge argument about car insurance that he was supposed to pay on time and he didn't and car had no insurance for 2 weeks and then he left and never came back, he called me time to time, I thought we would of gotten back together, but we didn't, I am 40 years old hurt and alone, so my advice is to take a break from each other for a while and date other people you are both still young and if your meant to be together at the end you will. GOOD LUCK
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (18 December 2010):
Well he has been by your side for two years and has suggested marriage in the future. Sometimes peoples' tempers get the better of them. He also apologized, which shows more maturity than you think. Its hard for guys, especially high school guys, to admit their faults.
I think you guys can hang on :) I have confidence. Every couple goes through a rough patch at about the 2 year mark, don't worry. Communicate as best you can and try and come up with a good solution for your problems together. Don't be afraid to hold each other accountable and take criticism from him even if you don't want to hear it. Try and look past the little things together and be understanding of one another.
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