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writes:Okay so I'm 20 and my Boyfriend is 30. We have been together for a year and a half and he is totally my best friend and we love each other to death and are great! But....we seem to fight almost everyday and I seem to CRY EVERYTIME... I tell him when things bother me but he says get over it.. this is stupid....and tells me to shut up.....I get jealous alit because he has been with very pretty girls in the past and I hate when he talks about other women in front of his friends. I know that's a Guy thing but it bothers me because he never has taken me on a date or told me I was beautiful within the past year and a half...I love him but feel like I should leave...and we live together :s what to do??? He acts like he could care less!!!!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 It really does seem as though he loves you nearly as much as you love him. He has never taken you out on a date, he has never told you that you are beautiful? Does he so much reach out to hold your hand as you two walk beside each other?
Read through what you wrote. I think the answer is clear here. He told you to "shut up" and you still believe he cares about you? You opened up to him and he spat in your face. You would not do that to a friend so why on Earth would a loving boyfriend ever do that to a woman he loved? There is nothing for you here, leave him.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 Well, there's red flags everywhere here that suggest to me that this isn't going to last forever... Do you think you could handle crying almost everyday for the rest of your life?
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reader, AngelOfthemoon +, writes (23 October 2010):
Well, first his pretty old for you. Maybe you should be with someone around your age that can understand you more. The guy that you are with right now doesn't seem like his very nice to you. It seems like he is treating you like garbage. You shouldn't have to cry all the time because I'm sure you are a beautiful person and smart. Now I wonder is it love or is it just your mind telling you to stay besides your heart. You are in a abbuseve relationship even though it doesn't seem so you are there are many kinds of abuse and thats one of them. You are smart and you know you don't deserve to be leaving like this. You are still 20 you have a long time to go meet new people new boyfriends go out and have fun besides being tracked by your boyfriend who seems not to care about you. Now, stop for a second and ask yourself is it love?do I deserve better? Can I find someone that will treat me better? Look to those answers and put it in a scale of leaving him and one of not see which one weights more. And all it seems is that you only have "love" on the not leaving side and a bunch of new opportunities on the leaving side now Is your time to pick. Good luck :)
-angelofthemoon
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 October 2010):
 He's never taken you on a date? Then how did you two become boyfriend and girlfriend? Telling you to shut up or get over it, and making you cry everyday, this guys doesn't sound very nice. He's 30 and your 20, usually guys (not all) around that age are looking to settle down. I'm curious as to what he's doing with someone significantly younger than him. No offense. Although, you could be very mature for your age, or he could be very immature and have yet to grow up. The talking about girls with his friends is normal. You getting jealous of him dating pretty girls in the past is silly. They didn't work out and now he is with you. Those girls were before your time.
Now, I will say if you're not happy and crying everyday then there's no sense being in a relationship where you are constantly unhappy. Life is too short for to waste time being unhappy and sad. If you are having doubts and your conscience is saying leave then follow that voice inside your head and move out.
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