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writes:I'm 17 and theres this girl who's 15. We've known each other for years now and have always been really close. We went away with a sporting club a little while ago, and on the last night there, all crowded into one room. Her being much younger and having had a lot harder competition than us was exausted and worn out. Later into the evening she got very tired, so being a friend i went over and cuddled up to her. In the end we both ended up falling asleep together (nothing happened, or was intended). Waking up in the morning i found she was cuddled up very close to me, a few of the other lads saw this as well, and having been telling me it was wrong, and that i was sleeping with a girl much younger than me. Also saying that i could just take advantage of her. I would not EVER take advantage of her as she is a very close friend to me. This is also entirely not true, as nothing happened, and it was just a gesture of close friendship. We're just friends and nothing more was meant of it. However this is not what other people are saying, and it's driving me insane, any advice? Also do people really think it's that wrong ?Cheers Reply to this Question
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 You know that you had no mal intentions. So whatever others think, they are wrong. You keep going just as you and your friend have been doing. If adults start questioning you, you tell them exactly as you have told us. They may caution you not to be in situations like that again because people love to spread their idea of what they thought occured with not care to your feelings. Anyway to sum up. You know you did nothing wrong so have peace in that and tell all others to mind their own businesses and to stop talking or asking you about what happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): Your question is so similar to the question yesterday posed (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/we-fell-asleep-together-and-now-everyone-is.html). Are you guys both writing in to dear cupid....how amazing. Anyway, Just ignore the troublemakers.....chill out, let them gossip, you know the truth.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (29 August 2007):
 i fully agree with penta here.
You did nothing wrong and you cant stop other people gossiping all you can do is say your side (the truth) that you did nothing wrong at all and just ignore the stupid rumors.
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reader, penta +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Unfortunately there's nothing you can do about gossip. It's out there, and you can't monitor what everyone says, especially when they want the juicy parts not the truth. Your best bet is to say, over and over, that NOTHING HAPPENED.
Continue your friendship with this girl -- she's likely to need the support as people start hassling her too. The two of you need to keep repeating the same story.
You may never clear that up, but you have to just grin and bear it, and keep repeating the truth. Broken record time here.
"Live never to be ashamed if anything you say or do is published around the world, even if what is said is not true." -- Richard Bach
Good luck.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (29 August 2007):
 There is only a two year age difference but as long as it was just a hug and nothing more i see no problem, it was considerate that u were there and if the friends were friends they wuld be considerate to the fact that you were just being a friend that night, so ignore them.As long as you didn't do nething there seems to be no problem to me. Good luck. Mail me if you need anymore help. Sparkii-x-x
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