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writes:Me and my girlfriend don't have sex anymore and I don't know why I treat here great. She never has to buy things as I give her everything or do any house work and cook as I do it all i run her baths and give massages and take Her out for meals every day off work I get. We must have sex 1 time about every 2 months or so sometimes more I don't get it Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): Gosh, i wish you were my boyfriend!! hahaha jk. But you sound like a very sweet, supportive guy. To tell you the truth, I don't have sex with my boyfriend because he does things for me. Even though that would be plus :) I do it because I am attracted to him, I love him and because I actually enjoy sex. Maybe you should find out what turns your girlfriend on. You shouldn't stop being the supportive, loving and caring boyfriend, but you should find out what she likes in bed :)
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (1 March 2011):
You sound really lovely to do all of those things for her. Really lovely, predictable, doting, unexciting and unsexy. Keep doing the lovely stuff, but stop focusing all your attention on her, and put it back on yourself. Start living your own life, doing things that interest you, spend more time on the things you are passionate about, rather than spending all of your focus and attention on her. I don't mean for you to neglect her or to not do things for her, but just don't make her the centre of your universe, otherwise what can she find interesting and stimulating in you? Do something interesting in your life that she can be excited about you for. When she can feel excited about you, her interest in you will increase again, and the sex will come naturally.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (1 March 2011):
 Because women don't have sex with you because you do thigns for them, they have sex with you because they are attracted to you.
What do you think creates attraction? Do you think she is sexually aroused by free meals? Random guy friends would buy her meals. Paying her bills? Her parents paid her bills for at least 18 years, that's not gonna do it.
All you are doing is creating an entitlement complex. Now, at this point, I would suspect the relationship (by which I mean her view of you as a man) is damaged beyond repair, and you should dump her.
But for future reference, when you want a girl to continue putting out for the duration of a relationship, you have to continue doing the things that intially attracted her - and paying for drinks doesn't count, that just hurts your cause. Tease her, play with her, go outside and do things with her. When she asks you to do something for her, flirt with her for ten minutes before you do. When she asks you to do something unreasonable, laugh as though you believed she was joking, then refuse.
Until a woman has had your children, never pay for anything but your half of the dinner, plus booze. And make it clear by your actions (not your words) that if she is not going to uphold her end of the relationship (sexually or otherwise), you will dump her and move on. Trust me, women are more attracted to a guy who is willing to walk away than to one who will put up with her nonsense.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (1 March 2011):
 she has taken u for granted. ur not a man anymore,ur a slave. stop doing all that for her and she'll be interested.
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