A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: I recently broke up with my long distance boyfriend because he wasnt treating me the way I wanted to be treated. It was his first relationship, and he didnt understand how to give me emotional comfort.I was really frustrated, and told him so. He was heartbroken and begged me to let him try again. I refused, but agreed to remain friends.The first few weeks after I was okay with it, but now I'm losing my mind and can't function. I miss him so much, and I'm terrified of when we finally drift apart. How do do I teach him what I want? He's very shy and doesn't know girls well.What do I do?
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female
reader, partly to blame +, writes (1 March 2011):
hi. you only have to talk to him, heart to heart. tell him what you want from him and how you wanted to be treated..
he deserves a second chance, so are you. just work it out. talk it out. i'm sure he would understand you coz he loves you so much. don't let miscommunication deprive you the chance to be happy.
have faith in him, surely, apart from his shyness, he would surely want what's best for you and your relationship.
"Love is sweeter the second time around." Believe me, been there, done that...God Bless...
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female
reader, .. +, writes (1 March 2011):
This happens in a lot of teenage romances. Guys generally don't see things the way we do, and because women (I say this because this is something I do, too) make assumptions that he doesn't care. Guys' brains work differently, and they sometimes don't realise what they've done or not done.
I say, if you really still have feelings for him, you may give it another shot. If he's that important, either keep close contact or start something going again. But then again, it's hard to prevent from drifting apart in long-distance.
What ever you choose, I hope it goes well!
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