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writes:My boyfriend has just hit a milestone birthday in his life, I am nearly two years younger and I think this is affecting us and the way we get along. He has started going out with his friends drinking and I'm left behind. I don't know what to do any more because it's really hurting me not seeing him. I've been with him through tough times and I've always been there. I love so much but I feel we are different. Should I stay and hope for a better future or should I go? We've been together for two years. Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 Oooh, that's tough. I know how you feel... I started dating my fella when I was 19 and he was 23. It totally sucked staying home when he went out with the boys. New Years Eve? He can either go to a bunch of super fun clubs with a bunch of drunk, rowdy people or stay home with his lame, underage boring girlfriend (at least that's how I felt).
It sucks, but eventually you'll catch up to him. Unfortunately, the thrill of being 21 will last for another couple of months until he's burnt out from the bar scene and gets bored with it. Until then, he needs to be a little more considerate of you. You also need to make some adjustments.
The cooler you are with him going out with the guys, the cooler he (ought to) be about giving you the appropriate amount of girlfriend time. Tell him that like, Friday nights he spends with you, Saturday nights he can go party at the bar and Sunday's you'll nurse his hangover. On Saturday, go out with your girls and don't make yourself miserable by staying home alone waiting for him to call. Give yourself a super fun night, girlfriend.
Here's the thing, sweetness. Life will happen, milestones will hit, crisis will happen, and you'll go through different phases. Each time you'll need to adjust your relationship a little bit to make each other happy.
If you really feel like your priorities are TOO different for you both to be happy, absolutely break up with him. There are more fish in the sea, after all! :o) But, if you guys have something good, don't let it so easily! Compromise can make you a lot happier than splitting up.
Goodness!! This is a novel. Sorry... hope I helped a bit. Peace out, chica!
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