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writes: My hubby and I have been together for 5 yrs, married 4 and we have always had a very good and open relationship. Lately I have lost all trust in him even though he has done nothing to start this. I feel like I am pushing him away because I keep thinkin he is cheating. I love him to bits and I know he loves me but when we are apart I picture him with someone else and I can't stop it. I'm making his life hell but I can't stop. I see something in everything he does, even thought there is nothing there to see.We do nothing but argue now because of this and his drinking habits. Please help me. I feel like I'm going mad Reply to this Question
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (27 June 2005):
 You are not going mad; you are torturing yourself needlessly. You are imagining these circumstances possibly because you are frightened of losing your husband. You need to start believing in him and in yourself.
Ask him to tell you once more that he isn't cheating, that he loves only you and wouldn't even consider hurting you. Ask him this one last time and no more.
Then work on your confidence and your relationship with your hubby, tackle also his drinking that you mentioned and work together to make a better relationship.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2005): You may not be wrong to think yout husband is cheating. Women know these things. And as far as his drinking, you need to decide if this is making your situation worse, or does he drink to escape your constant nagging about him with other women? If so if you can fix one problem, maybe you can fix both.
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (26 June 2005):
Are you sure the problem is imagined cheating?
You mention drinking habits...another problem that you need to talk about...As far as the cheating goes..unless you have REAL proof of something...BACKOFF and clean up YOUR act...or you are gonna be seeing him with someone else AFTER YOUR DIVORCE.!!!
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