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writes: O.K, I'm an Indie gal, and all other boys go for preps, and I kinda get left out here. Why do boys go for sexy girls and not the goth/mosher/indie girls?? :'( I really want a boyfriend, but the last (and first) boy I asked out rejected me! I get little hints that he MIGHT fancy me, e.g. he texts me all the time, but..........I don't know! Helllllllllllllp! :'( Thanx people! :o :S :'(
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reader, Skellington  +, writes (5 July 2009):
 Because, our generation has been blinded by media and what's "acceptable". Tan skin, Hollister, blond hair, rap music. Our generation has been brainwashed into believing in all of these things and frankly, it pisses me off. I'm part of the metal/goth crowd and I am constantly shunned and have stigmas placed upon me because that's the cycle. If you're not in the circle of acceptable people, you're shoved violently to the outside, humiliated, broken, reformed (maybe, or become homicidal), and accepted as a lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2005): well most boys take there girls out with there mates and they often talk about there girls been well fit and dont care about personality there just dont wont there mates to think that he is going out with a minger because he would probly get bullied and most sexy chics are well popular well i now how it feels i go to a american high school and my boyfreind finshed me for a sexy more popular girl who i hang round with.....
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reader, pops +, writes (26 June 2005):
I agree with Bev. Connolly. You should also consider that because of your family heritage, you look exotic to most of the young men, and that can be very intimidating at their age. If they are caucasion, they may believe that you will be only interested in dating Indian boys and men. There is still a lot of racial nonsense going on out there, so don't take it personally. If you know a boy that you like, talk to him. He will figure out that you are interested in him, and after spending some " safe " time with you, where he can get comfortable, not only with you, but with the comments made to him about you by his freinds, he may just ask you out. My first wife was Japanese American, and I am caucasion. The racial thing did not bother either of us, but I got several snide comments from friends who suggested I was dating her only because she was oriental. I was 25 when we started dating, which allowed me to be a lot more sure of my feelings, and not give a darn about what other people thought or said. I can't say that I would have been so bold in High school. Give the boys time to mature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2005): If the guys near you dont see who you are other than your look, is it such a bad thing not being with them? I mean its thier loss in the end isnt it? But someday I bet you there will be a lovely man who will come your way who would be better than you hoped for! If you cant wait that long then why dont you go to a party or something that theres going to be a lot of indie people going to for example if you were a goth why not going to a gothic party! then of course enjoy yourself and by the end of the night you'll have loads of boys hanging from your arm!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (26 June 2005):
 I'm not a young guy, but in The Days of Yore, I too was one of the girls that used to get overlooked, so here's a guess...
Young men - contrary to their press releases! - are pretty easily intimidated. Sure, they boast and swagger, but that's mostly show for the benefit of other guys. They're really not very confident, and they tend to want to go after the girls they think they have the best chance of a Yes with.
Preppie girls probably seem more approachable than goths and other girls who have a more serious "image". Girls who are smart and self-confident - especially if they have an underlying philosophy - can seem a bit of a threat to young fellows. I wish it was otherwise, but that's my experience. High-school aged guys are influenced more by superficialities more than men who are older.
Thankfully, high school eventually ends! When you get past that and get a chance in the real world, guys start to really feel more confident in themselves and that leads to more of an appreciation of all the young women around them, moshers, goths and all.
So, keep your chin up. Bide your time. Unless having a boyfriend is something that's so important to you that you're willing to pretend to be something you're not - not advisable, by the way - then be patient. In time you'll be surrounded by fellows that are more interested in your personality and intellect than whether you have the right hairstyle.
Again, only my personal experience. Make of it what you will.
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