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writes:I recently met this guy. We come from different backrounds. Well not totally different, but different enough. You see, he is a gang member. But wait for the whole story before you start spitting your opinions. Are you still with me?Anyways, I met him last friday, at a gathering with a few friends. I felt a connection with him right away, we just clicked. He told me alot about himself, and his previous girlfriend and how serious he was about her. He told me he fell for her and she broke his heart and cheated on him. Most of my friends say, "Well what happens if you guys date, then break up, things could get nasty!" But, I don't believe that is the case. He didn't do anything to his previous girlfriend. He told me he went through alot of heart ache and moved on. I was pretty much going through the same thing as he was, when my ex and I broke up. At the end of the night we kissed and we stared up at the stars outside, and he just held me and was like, "I just have a good feeling about this" it was like something out of a movie! Oh so cute, gave me butterflies.The thing is, I haven't seen him since last friday, but i'd really like to see him again. We exchanged phone numbers and he told me he'd call me on saturday, but didn't end up calling until this past monday. I guess he was trying to play "hard to get." Do most guys do this?When he called me on Monday, he asked me to come out. I wasn't allowed, so he told me he would call me on Wednesday. Which was yesterday. ( Or kind of sort of, still today ) He did call me, and he told me to call him back in a few hours. But you see, I didn't want too, because I thought, well if he wants to hang out with me, he'll call me? Well guess what, he didn't. So some of my questions are.1) How am I ever going to see him, if were both trying to play hard to get?2) Do you think his intentions are true, and he feels the same about me as I do for him?3) Should I wait for him to call me, or should I call him?4) Should I move on from this, because I just met him, and barely know anything about him.I feel like I am waiting around all day and night for this guy. By him not calling me, makes me miss him even more! I need to see him!
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reader, dandada14  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 annalisa is right becareful with these type of guys. Remeber alot of women like these kinda adventure guys that will trill them sometimes and break them most of the times.if u date a guy like this expect to be disapointed alot and he prolly wont commit to alot of things he says he would do but thats just my comment on the matter becareful
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): He might be playing hard to get. But I am not sure about that, only because he said he would call on Saturday and didn't call till Monday. More than anything that's just showing you that he is not very reliable and not good at keeping his word. But it could have been a game, I don't know.
But just because he is not reliable doesn't mean you shouldn't be either. If you told him you would call him back in a few hours, by all means, call him back. Keep your word. Let him play all the games that he wants, if that's what he's doing, it doesn't mean you have to play games too.
Like a few weeks ago, an ex of mine contacted me, via email, to see how I was doing. So I wrote him back, asked him a few questions of my own and never heard back from him. Then out of nowhere a few weeks later he writes me again, this time, paying my a compliment on a pic he saw of me. I could have played his little "game" and not wrote him back like he had done, but I am my own person and I wrote him back and said thanks. That makes me the bigger person.
Be your OWN person, forget what other people do. Have your own personality.
Oh and p.s. Be careful with this guy. Cause if he is not playing games, (which I suspect he might not be), I guarantee you he is dating other girls...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): I completely agree with annalisa - keep your eyes open to who this guy actually is.
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reader, dangerouslove.  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 I am going through the exact same thing you are. The exact same thing! Literally. Unfortuantly, I have no advice for you, because I am seeking advice for the same situation myself! Just wanted to let you know, your not alone. Oh, the dangerous boys are so appealing. The image is bad, but yet you want to fall inlove with them, arent i right?
Definetly think we should have a chat!
Best of luck to you
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