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41-50,
Nephertite
writes:Ok... have you ever had a really good sneeze? You know the kind that feels like it starts from the toes and and there is a surge of power bulding up all the way till you SNEEZE and let it all out- no surpressing it- just an earth shattering AHHHHHHHHHHHH CHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! A really good sneeze! A F***ING good sneeze!! Yes well I just had an epiphanal moment that can be equated to that kinda sneeze!MILIIONS of SINGLE women out there sit at home or walk around feeling lousy about themselves, thinking they will NEVER find a man. And when I say ''a man'' I dont mean the kind to flirt with or to have a one night stand with or to have non-committal sex with. I mean a man to fall crazy in love with, to feel like you cant get enough of each other, to let 2 worlds connect and intertwine and become 1 world. I mean CRAAZZYYY in love!So anyway... my epiphanal moment may not seem like much to most where we're confronted with couples giving u the 3rd degree when ur a lil older and SINGLE- semmingly the ultimate faux pas. I mean the 'Singles' (whisper when you say this because its an expletive in this modern era) can't even try a lil witty cyniciscm to throw people off - without it throwing them off to begin with.Couple: Are you attachedWitty cynical SINGLE: Yeah... to my leg ha ha haCouple: Ma-lik (muslim name).. who's Ma-lik?Witty cynical SINGLE: Confused, thrown off and wondering the same damn thing.WHY do these pretentious couples ASSUME that MY LEG is MALIK... I mean the SINGLE girl could have a disturbing fixation with her leg.. right?? It's possible you know.Being SINGLE is almost like a crime and even ''double jeopardy'' doesn't get you off the hook. First you are on trial because you are SINGLE and you get sentenced to humiliation and the look of pity that yells "don't worry... I'm sure u'll find someone'', and just when you think u have served your time, another couple puts you back on the stand for the same darn thing! Will the agony never end??Ok well back to my epiphany... as DIFFICULT as it might seem.. I think waiting and patience is the key. I know I sound like the Dalai Lama.. but no... this is not a Bhuddist attempt to make you choose patience and meditation. I am being serious. You might have to wait 38 years or even 45. But not every man has an innate aversion to monogamy. They might be a dying breed, but patience and graceful waiting will get you there. Try being the eternal optimist for a change. It might just change your aura and attract the right people. For the cynics reading this- believe me. I am still your cynical touchstone. But, I am a cynic with a little twist... I have what you call ''FAITH". A little of that magic word will bring you a long way.
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reader, Nephertite +, writes (4 July 2008):
Nephertite is verified as being by the original poster of the question Awww thank you so much! Excellent reply/comment : I was actually feeling down.. really down but this made me feel like I shouldn't lose the faith I was yappin on about in the article. THanks again and yes i totaly get the thing about babies... people who already ahve it all should just mind their own business and keep in mind that they were once single too or childless.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 Well written and well thought out Nephertite, I'm sure there is someone out there you will be a very lucky man when he meets you.
And I hate couples who hassle single girls ( its always girls never single guys ) over why they haven't got someone, but I find they tend to have something in common - (the couples that is) and that's boredom.
They are bored shitless, they have nothing better to do with their boring lives but interfere in the privacy of their single friends. I believe half of it is jealousy at the loss of their own individual freedom, they sit and watch crap soap operas and game shows with nothing to say to each other, so they need to interfere in the life of their single friends who are living it up! So there's another angle for you to explore.
It's the same with childless couples, all of a sudden your friends who used to whoop it up and party like animals suddenly now come out with , "when are you going to have children?" ( usually in a nasally whiny voice ). They are up to their eyeballs in nappies, bags under their eyes, broke, sleep deprived and miserable, so I believe they just want you to be in the same boat as them. Now I'm not saying there's anything wrong in having babies I know it is a wonderful experience, so keep it quiet there in the back please - but the situation is analogous I believe.
Anyhoo, lovely article and you will find your dream guy I'm sure and he'll be a lucky boy indeed.
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