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*rincessa980
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We moved in with each other about 8 months ago. We've been arguing about nonsense and we've been unable to communicate effectively when it comes to feelings. Our last argument about 2 weeks ago, has left things weird and he told me he wants to move out now. Should I let him go or fight to save the great part of us?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (2 July 2012):
Do you want to fight for this relationship? If you really don’t know whether you want to fight for him or not, perhaps there’s your clue that this relationship has simply run its course. Sadly it happens! But if you do, but are just not sure because you don’t know what he wants, you just need to put your cards on the table, tell him what you want and ask him to explain how he feels. You mightn’t like the answer, but at least you’ll know where you stand. If you don’t want to be in this relationship either, let him move out, wish each other well and go your separate ways. If you want to work things out, talk to him. Explain that you want to try and work through your problems and save this relationship, and ask him to be honest about whether he wants the same or not. If he does, discuss how you might introduce a controlled system to bring up any grievances and discuss them in an adult way, before they end up causing an argument. Look in to relationship counselling if you think that you might need a bit of help with this.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 Sometimes couples can work great together until they move in with each other and the realise they are just not compatible to live with one another. I think you need to sit down with him and have a long talk and see if you can both move forward with this. Communication is the key here so you both just need to be open and honest with each other.
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