We broke up, working on being together but she changed all her passwords and while away she hasn't been making much contact. What's up?

A male age 41-50, *ilkywhite writes:

I have been with my lady for over 5 years. We moved together from NJ to maryland about 4 years ago. She was working at front desk at a major hotel chain. She was offered a Assistant General Managers position, so she took it and we moved in together. Within the 2 years she went from AGM, to DOS, to GM. I ditched my old job and snagged the first thing I could find. Now during our relationship, I noticed I was a negative person. I felt almost hopeless over the last few years because my job was going no where, and I had no idea what would happen between the two of us over the course of 10 years. She worked, and continues to work 12-13 hour days, and hits the gym when she gets home. Leaving us just about an hour a day together, and maybe weekends. During this period, I got amazing news that I inherited a lot of money. I can now pursue my dream! She always felt i wasn't career driven, and Im not. She literally worked from the bottom to the top. Personally, I dont want to work for anyone else, and I needed to figure out a plan over the next year. Last month I started my business, and its a slow process, but the money is there, and I can basically afford whatever we need. but She feels im negative and brings situations down. Ive had issues with not seeing the positive, which im working on. Shes been my best friend, so its been so easy to talk about stuff with her, but her past, regarding her parents relationship is pretty bad. It feels like it has a bit to do with why we argued. So a few weeks ago, she wanted to break up. So we agreed, and spent 2 weeks apart planning our departure. I returned home one evening, and she came running and told me how much she loves me and doesn't want to break up. She wants to work on things. So during the breakup, she changes her passwords. We share the same everything, and i never snoop, its just not my personality. But when i logged on, because we share google music, etc, I noticed they all changed. Also, she has a trip she went on this weekend, 5 days, to see her old friend she hasn't seen in 2-3 years. I took her to the airport, got a kiss and the i love you, and she went off. I remember seeing her friends text one night, saying she needs to grow a back bone. She tends to keep her personal life (us) out of everything. She said she was gonna put things on the back burner until she gets back. I haven't gotten a single message from her, no i love yous or anything. Causes some concern for me, being things have been rough the last few weeks. she returns sunday, and im very excited to see her. she left on such a positive note, just feels odd that theres barely any contact or emotion when she leaves. I get the i miss you, but theres never the i love you...after 5 years?

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