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30-35,
anonymous
writes:HeyMe and my bf broke up last week. I met him after 2 days asking him to be friends he disagreed for any contact. I maintained the no contact rule and today is the sixth day. He has exams on monday therefore, can I text him to wish him good luck? Or shall I just maintain the no contact rule until he texts me back?.. And if I shall text him what should I write to him?Thank you
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reader, person12345  +, writes (28 July 2012):
 I understand you're hurting and it's hard not having him in your life anymore, but what are you hoping to accomplish with this text? If you're honest with yourself, what are you actually hoping this text will accomplish? You and I both know you're not sending this text out of pure good naturedness. Breaking up is hard and you're trying to find any excuse to contact him, but it's a bad idea. He likely will either not text you back or send you a short one word answer, and then you will feel heartbroken. You will get past this much faster if you are able to keep to yourself for awhile. If he wants to contact you, he will. Otherwise take some time for yourself to feel sad and then try to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): No don't text him OP, he has exams to worry about the last thing he needs is you texting him to remind him that he's just broken up too and adding to the stress.
Just leave him alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): What part of NO don't you understand?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (28 July 2012):
You’ve agreed no contact, that means no contact! Don’t text him to wish him good luck, it may be upsetting to him and unhelpful before an exam. It could also be upsetting for you if he doesn’t reply. Why are you waiting for him to text you back anyway? You shouldn’t be. You can’t agree not to contact some-one, then assume that they will and spend your life waiting for him to break the agreement. You need to accept that your relationship is over and put distance between you. Of course if you still care for him you’ll want him to do well, but the best thing to do for him and yourself, is leave him alone.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): No it would be inappropriate to text when he has told you he doesn't want any contact. Let him concentrate and focus on his exams and just think positive for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): Take a sincere advice from a man in his mid thirties with extensive relationship experience by both being in very deep love before, and being a competent player. Do NOT contact him please! Ok?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (28 July 2012):
 Sorry sweetness, no contact means No Contact. So I wouldn't text him at all. Send him good vibes, but no text message. Good luck maintaining!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): No you should not contact him at all, he has asked for no contact so respect this and not contact him, unless he contacts you first, if he does contact you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 July 2012):
 No contact usually means no contact. I think you probably need a lot longer of no contact to accept he doesn't want to be your friend or boyfriend.
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