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Sex only 4 times in 5 years? But no affection? Gives his Aunt more affection. Should I leave?

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Question - (28 July 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 6 August 2012)
A female South Africa age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My bf of five years has only had sex with me four times

He also only shows affection to his aunt

I'm staying with him but his aunt is the one to get the kiss when he comes home

Is it normal he does kiss hold or touch me and I sleep in his bed I can get naked and it wouldn't phase him!

Should I leave?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2012):

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I really don't understand my boyfriend he seems to be strange I'm at the peak of my sex drive and he won't kiss sleep or touch me I get many compliments from other men that I'm pretty and have a great body why not from him?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012):

I agree with the first answer, it doesn't sound like a relationship just like you are a friend who happens to live with him.

Please don't be offended as I may be completely wrong but could he possibly be trying to hide his sexuality? Perhaps having you live with him he is trying to be straight when he doesn't know what he wants? To only have sex that little in so many years certainly would make me question what is going on?

Regardless I wouldn't spend any more time being classed as a couple, everyone deserves to be loved and desired and I am sure you will find these joys with someone else.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012):

Leave and move on. You deserve better than this. Anyone does actually. Life would bring you someone much better I hope. Hanging there wouldn't make things get any better. Instead of trying to analyze his strange personality let's focus on you and the best for you. Leave!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012):

It is very strange that he shows his aunt affection but does not show you any at all. In this case yes I would leave, it is not a relationship in my opinion.

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