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writes:MOD NOTE: Two questions from same asker combined.Okay.. So here we go..(sorry it is sooo long!). My ex and I were dating for 6 months and broke up 7 months ago. He broke up with me. When we were dating I always went over to his house, and when I did I hung out with his sisters and parents for most of the time i was there and only hung out with him for like 30 min before i left. We cuddled, kissed, watched parts of movies, etc. His mom usually made him walk me home. He always told me he loved me and looked me right in the eyes and promised me. During school he would never talk to me or even make eye contact with me. Also there was a time where he didn't talk to me for 2 weeks straight and did not come visit me when i was sick, but when we were together it was awesome. We never had sex or anything like that, and i was his first girlfriend. My friends don't really like him (we go to a small school). When he broke up with me it felt like my world ended. I still go over to his house and hang out with his sisters and parents. Me and him work together and it just kills me. The other day we were messaging each other and he told me he loved me more than a friend and he was really stupid for breaking up with me. The next few days after that we didn't really talk at all and he now acts the same as before and pretends like he never said anything to me. I do not know how to tell how he really feels. He is not one to share his feelings. Help me!!!! 2nd Q:My boyfriend is a jealous person. I am his first girlfriend and he his not comfortable with his body, etc. Most of my friends are guys and he doesn't understand, (but is getting better) that they are just friends. What can I tell him to make sure he keeps remembering this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe first question was for my ex who i am in love with. The 2nd question was for my boyfriend now....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Ok first off, if he has texted you and told you that he loves you then thats a clear sign for you to make the next move, text him and ask him would he like to meet up with you in private so you can talk, if he agrees tell him that you love him to and ask him does he think you could both get back together, if this is what you both want then work on it and work on getting things back on track. ok your friends might not like him but its you thats dating him not them and they should be there for you no matter what.
Secondly dont fall away from your guy friends because it will turn in to a spiral of him wanting to control your life, explain to him that they are your friends and thats all, tell him its him you want to be with and that you love every part of him. His insecurities about his body are his and therefore he needs to deal with them because no matter what you say to him its not going to change the way he sees himself he needs to do that himself. On the jelousy issues, well tell him if you are both going to get back with each other that he has to trust you, explain to him that if he is going to get jelous all the time that he will eventually push you away.
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reader, Outspoken1016 +, writes (22 November 2010):
Are both questions for you?
Cause that just confuses me however the first part of your question if the man wanted you he would stop at nothing to get you. Do not try to make more out of something then is really there. Twisting or analyzing men’s actions is something women do all too often. Men are pretty simple they go after what they want and stay away from what they don’t.
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It’s not how much you explain that the males in your life are just friends. IT’s ALL in your behavior. If you flirt with these men or act like you’re more than friends that is the answer. IF your behavior is line with “Just friends” then your man should be fine. If he is not then maybe you should try to boost your boyfriend’s confidence i.e...Telling him how sexy he is..Making him feel like he is the only one for you stuff like that.
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