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*rivateGirl
writes:Okay so my boyfriend and I broke up 3weeks ago, he recently wrote to me expressing how much he missed and loved me but had no intentions of doing anything about it. He's starting a new job and a course so hes busy and that is why he can't be in a relationship. I recently told hiim (about two days ago) That I need to unfriend him because being his friend on facebook torments me as we don't talk and when we do he tells me he loves me! This is just putting me in a situation where I have no idea whats going on! He lives an hour and a half away and we've given each other the impression that we could be together when I move to the city in 5months(where he lives) But I think if I am friends with him I'll be like living on this hope. Unfriending him was a very irrashional decsion I think as I honestly regret it because I miss being able to talk to him but I feel I was the one putting in all the effort to start a conversation. I don't know how to get him back when I really want him and I know he loves me but when I imply it he doesnt say anything.It isn't that he doesn't care but that he is very lazy.How do I get him back?I'm going to be in his city this weekend should I tell him even though I told him I didn't want to be his friend or will I sound desperate?To call or not to call?
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reader, PrivateGirl +, writes (12 May 2011):
PrivateGirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question The funny thing is you've given me the advice I'd give myself I just didn't want to take it but hearing it from someone else makes me realise that I just have too. Thank you so much for your answer, it's really apperciated!!!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (12 May 2011):
 I dont think that you should call him. In fact I think the best thing that you did do was unfriend him. Being friends with an ex is never easy and you want him back so it is just not going to work. He has said clearly to you that even though he misses you and loves you he doesnt want to do anything about it. Therefore you need to accept that this is over.
Nobody knows what the future will hold and who knows the both of you might get together again in 5 months time. But dont sit around hoping that this is the case because he may change in those five months and decide that he doesnt want to be in a relationship with you. Believe me when I say unfriending him was the best thing to do at this time. Off course you miss him that is only natural but it is time now to move on. So use the next five months to get your life back on track. Spend quality time with friends and keep yourself busy.
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