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male
age
36-40,
*eldman
writes:its been 5 months since me and my girlfriend broke up. it was a pretty bad breakup and i havnt seen her or talked to her since. she now has a facebook account and i dont know if i should try to talk to her and try to straighten things out between us. im having trouble letting her go because i think we could of worked things out. she wanted me to give her some space but at first i didnt. i tried to talk to her and work things out but it upset her. when they say i need space how much is enough space?
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (17 July 2007):
To be really honest with you “I need space” most often means “I want to break up”. People can say this because it’s hard to make a complete break when you have cared for someone. Maybe she wanted the option of having you back if she changed her mind, but she hasn’t changed her mind in 5 months. If she had, she would have found a way of letting you know. I would let her go. You didn’t want to read any of that of course. If you don’t want to hear that advice, then your only option is to contact her and find out. Try a friendly ice-breaker – how is she doing now? Tell her briefly what you have been doing. If she still wants you, it will be easy enough to take it from there.
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reader, down to earth +, writes (17 July 2007):
 awww well you said you and your girlfriend broke up 5months ago when did you last approcach her and what did you say that mad her get upset?Well the best advice i could give to you would be for you to phone her or text her and tell her how you fill as you said you still want to be with her.So i would say try and talk to her and tell her you will take the relationship slow if that will help,i really think you should give it a go though but i am baffeled why did you break up with her. Please get back to me so i can give you some proper advice.i will be hoping to her from you really soon x
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (17 July 2007):
 I would try and sort things out and make her realise that theres no hard feelings, because theres nothing worse than a vengeful ex. Hope it works out. =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): Well, usually when they say they need space is because the relationship is overwhelming them with lots of mixed emotions and they can't think clear. You can always check with her to see if she wants to give it another try. But five months is a lot of time and you should be prepared to the possibility that she might have moved on already. Just do what I did, check her facebook profile. If she has a new boyfriend the possibilities of her having him on her facebook friends list is high. If you don't see anything suspicious then add her to your friends. If she accepts you wait at least two days and call her and ask her to meet somewhere to talk as friends. Once there talk to her about getting back together. Good Luck!
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